*ADDED ADOPTION ANSWER* I Pretend My Daughter's Dolls Are Real Babies When No One's Looking
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Not all of the time, and not to some weird extent (I don't pretend to breastfeed them or anything), but more and more lately I do this. While my daughter is napping, or after she and my husband are asleep at night, I sometimes pick up one of her baby dolls and carry it about as if it is a real baby. If I feel my husband will not catch me, I occasionally go so far as to put the doll in the baby carrier while I clean the house. I even sing and talk to them.
I do not need a psychiatrist to tell me why I have started exhibiting such odd behavior. It is quite obvious that it has to do with my apparent inability to have more children, and with my only child entering her school age years. I have always dreamed of a house full of children, but I know now that it just is not going to happen. By the way, I love and care for my child. I spend every possible moment with her, and she is my entire world. So please do not assume I am one of those women who only want babies or that I will start neglecting my child for a baby doll. I guess I just miss the baby years and that I am having trouble coping with the fact that I will never have the chance to experience them with future children.
*As so many of you have asked about fostering and adoption, to save time, I will just restate the answer I have given a few of you here:
My husband and I have discussed the possibility of adoption since before I became pregnant with our daughter. We hope to one day adopt through the foster care system. However, my husband wishes to wait until he is out of the military and in a stable civilian career.
Quoting LucyMom08:
Yeah, it's definitely 4 am...
I was thinking the same exact thing lol
As long as you know the dolls aren't real babies, I don't see the harm. You'll have to find a way to mourn your infertility and move on.
Thank you.
I have thought about getting one of those "reborn" dolls (is that what they are called?), buy then my family would have to know about it. I have a feeling my husband would be accepting, but I worry that my daughter would begin to feel she was not good enough for me on her own. Also, I really do not want to be one of those women.
Quoting LAmom2three:As long as you know the dolls aren't real babies, I don't see the harm. You'll have to find a way to mourn your infertility and move on.
what to do when the special needs kid is the bully?
Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse?