See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I had someone who I was involved with for four years that I truly loved, and expressed an interest of wanting to settle down and get married to. We were there for one another and were always supportive of each other. Unfortunately this person decided he didn't want to do that, getting married that is and sadly I decided to end the relationship. As my mom would say why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, and I was wanting more out of life then I was getting, but through it all we were able to stay friends. Back then I was quite heavy, 330 lbs. So my now friend didn't have to worry about anyone looking at me, no one would of wanted me back then so I was safe, I was his. When we had disagreements I was a fat so and so, or a pig/cow, real degrading statements. Through the grace of God, in 2012 I went through Gastric Bypass surgery, and 14 months later I am down 140 lbs. I'm healthier and happier then I have ever been in a long while. That same person who didn't want to marry, and be with me for the rest of our life perked up as the pounds began melting away. He became jealous and mean, and possessive if anyone who was male (mostly friends) were noticing how nice I looked or they gave a hug or congratulations. If they were caucasian or hispanic it was okay they talked to me, but if they were african american then he was livid. He became Possessive, and domineering, He's also a closet racist who would say things degrading to others that I didn't like and didn't agree with. So my friendship ended with him.
I have moved on in my life, and am working and busy within my church and am getting on beautifully, I am looking to find that special person who I may ultimately meet some day, my friend can't deal with it, and tells me: I am the best thing that happened in your life, and you'll never find anyone who will be there, and do for you like I did. He is quite simply jealous that I am an independent woman who can make her own decisions and I don't need to rely on anyone else to be there for me anymore (Him). I'm told by this person I need to see a psychiatrist to deal with my issues of why I am against him, and can't agree with his way of thinking. Well I am in the 21st century, not living back in the 50's.
I needed to vent, and get this off my chest, and feel so much better for it now
The Christmas picture is of me on the right at 330 lbs with a friend the other one is in January of 2013 where I am with my son at 190 lbs