Ex and his wife are refusing to feed our children enough
I have 2 boys with my ex. They are 15 and 17, they play high school football in the fall (football camp starts in the summer and they play well into November). Then they do weight training throughout the rest of the year. They are VERY active and they eat a lot.
While they are doing foot ball they both need about 4,000 calories per day, this is per a discussion I had with their pediatrician and their coach. When it is not football season and they are just doing weight lifting, they need about 2400.
Yes, this gets expensive because they do eat a lot but that's part of having healthy, active teen boys. But my ex and his wife are always complaining about the boys. They try to give them the same size portions as they give SM's 12 year old boy who doesn't do sports and then wonder why the boys are still starving. My ex has actually told the boys that if they want more to eat, they can get jobs and buy food themselves. I am sorry but until they are 18 it is our responsibility to feed them according to what they need.
My sons hate going over there but I have always tried to convince them to go anyway to see their dad. At this point, I am done with it, I will tell my boys they don't have to if they don't want to (the court order sepcifically says once they are 15, visitation is up to them).
They are over there this weekend and this is the last time I will force them. I told my ex that too. I also told him to consider himself lucky because I feed them all the time AND their friends, he should have no problem giving them enough for 4 days a month.