My husband had an affair
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When it finally came out we split up for about a month but my son was so devastated that we ended up back together for his sake. Up until last October, dh had become verbally and borderline physically abusive. I finally gave him an ultimatum that we move five states away to where my family is. We moved.
Financially things are bad here. I miss my friends. I'm sort of a weird nerdy chick and out here in the boondocks the rednecks look at me funny. Dh wants to move back. (FYI I love rednecks. They are my family. But they don't get me)
Oh yeah and my brother is still marrying that girl. In August. They live across the country and I miss him terribly.
Ok. Done venting. I'm not really supposed to talk about that stuff but sometimes I just want to scream at people who think my life is perfect.
your husband cant be that great of a man to cheat then verbally and physically abuse you. he needs to get therapy, then the 2 of you together need couples therapy. Hopefully your child doesnt see him acting this way. Are you going to allow your brothers fiancee back in your lives when they get married?
We've been in some stressful times before, but dh has never been abusive and never cheated... some guys are real men, and some guys like your dh are lowlives with wives who constantly excuse them
Does your brother know about the affair? I would never want them (well, her) to visit. I also would probably never trust him (husband) again. That sucks. I have trust issues and if my husband cheated I don't think we could ever go back. I told him he doesn't have to tell me, just don't have sex with me if he does and we can get a divorce.
You can forgive but you will never forget. NO one's life is perfect, that's for sure! Good luck!
An affair doesn't always have to end in a divorce, maybe YOU'RE "messed up in the head"! OP insisted on moving back to her family not "alienating" herself. If you're going to be a witch at least read carefully.
Quoting Fatal_Frost:
The fact that you're still with him, and alienating yourself from family, shows how messed in the head you are... you would think you'd want to set a good example for your kids, what would you think if they stayed with someone who does shit like your dh does?
We've been in some stressful times before, but dh has never been abusive and never cheated... some guys are real men, and some guys like your dh are lowlives with wives who constantly excuse them
what to do when the special needs kid is the bully?
Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse?