Now, I want to start this by saying I know most single moms work very hard being the sole provider for their families and I know some don't have a father in the picture at all. I don't envy those situations. However, sometimes I wish I could catch a break.
I feel like dh and I did thing in the "right" order. We got married in 2007. Saved up and had ds in 2010. I never ask for babysitters. We've had maybe 5 date nights in the past 3 years. Our life completely revolves around ds's needs.
Ds is almost 3 and I've only spent 2 nights away from him his entire life. The first being an over night trip with my sister for her bachelorette party and the second being black Friday so I could get all of his Christmas presents. Dh has only spent one night away from him his entire life. We have never had a night alone since he was born. I envy moms who have an ex, or parent, grandparent who is willing and excited to keep their kids overnight.
I desperately want to take a vacation with dh this year. We are taking ds on a 3 day trip this summer, but dh and I really need some alone time too. I have found a fabulous way to take a trip to Las Vegas. We would be getting 4 nights free at the New York, New York, 2 tickets to Zumanity, 2 tickets to Tournament of the Kings, a dinner for 2 at THE Steakhouse, $75 credit at the Sporting house, $100 credit for 9 Fine Irishmen, and a $50 credit for breakfast at Delights, all for free! We would be paying for airfare, transportation, a bus tour to the grand canyon, and a few lunches. All together the trip would be costing us less than $1,000.
Unless something miraculous happens, we will not be able to take the trip because we have no family willing to help out with ds while we're gone. Now I know 4 days is quite a bit considering we've never really been away from him, but there are several family members I would completely trust to take care of him and that he would be comfortable staying with. I'm not even asking for 1 person to keep him all 4 nights, but still it's a no go.
None of my friends have this problem and I can't help but be jealous. Most of them are single and can get a 1 night to 1 week break at the drop of the hat. I'm not trying to pawn him off, and I wouldn't leave if I didn't completely trust the caregivers we'd selected, but what do I have to do to get some alone time with dh? Does this make me selfish?