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Are fourth graders having sex? *Update* UPDATE#2 HUGE!!!

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 My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.

He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!

He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!

He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!


My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.

I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?

Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...

Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!


**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!


* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.

 I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.

When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.


**UPDATE 2!!

The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!


im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(

She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.


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by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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by the sauce is boss on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:32 AM

 I think there is more to it. No child, unaffected by anything else or influence, would just search for a site like that. Not at the age. Its either been going on for a while or there is an outside influence. I would think anyway.

Quoting ColleenF30:

Well considering it probably isn't "his" computer. I don't wish a computer virus on anyone. Many kids at that age have found porn. it doesn't surprise me in the least. What I have to wonder is where are the parents while he is online? Sounds like they have just cut him loose on the interwebz or are trying to rely on security features (which many kids know how to get around) to keep him out of the stuff.

Quoting JDmommyJD:

 A virus? That would be good for his computer. Thats the last thing I think anyone should be concerned about.

Quoting ColleenF30:

Oh redtube...kid is gonna get virused.



by Anonymous 8 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:33 AM
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My 4th grader doesn't know what sex is. However, my 6th grade nephew recently got in trouble for viewing nasty stuff online because some of the other kids were talking about dirty videos they watch at home and told him he should google rape porn and watch it because it's good stuff. I'm scared for the future of this country's children. What kind of crap are parents allowing in their homes?

by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:33 AM
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Omg this is so incredibly sad. In 4th grade my friends and I were still playing with dolls and thought boys had cooties. Kids these days are growing up way too fast.
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by the sauce is boss on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:34 AM

 I have a feeling, the more I think about it, that there is an outside influence. I cant see a 9 or 10 year old just googling that one day, out of the blue. :(

Quoting Anonymous:

I had a friend like that in 3rd or 4th grade. I think the school should be aware. It turns out she was seen her mom having sex with her "asleep" iat the foot of the bed. (diffrerent men) She had her first baby at 13 quit school at sixteen. She got into that kind of stuff so young because she was being neglected. Hopefully this is just a case of parents not watching the internet usage. :(


by Ruby Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:36 AM
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jaw dropthrowing up

by Platinum Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:36 AM
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That is so sad.
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by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:36 AM
W. T. F?? My first thought was maybe this child has an older brother and this is where it's coming from? I hope it is something like that and not some of the terrifying alternatives.
by Anonymous 9 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:36 AM
I remember in 4th grade the boys would always grab our butts. Other times the fresh boys would show their penises. Then there was this freak who jumped on me and was dry humping me. Scared me.
by the sauce is boss on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:37 AM

 I asked the same thing, lol!

He said it was at lunch.

Quoting MBRsmommy:

One thing I am wondering though is where the hell was a teacher while this long conversation was going on???


by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:37 AM

This is awful, but one of my friends in high school had a sister who was 9 and she was looking up porn because her parents trusted their nine year old with the Internet. They found out and put an end to it, it's just sad that parents aren't aware sometimes of what their kids can get into and that they need to really monitor what their children are doing. 

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