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Are fourth graders having sex? *Update* UPDATE#2 HUGE!!!

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 My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.

He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!

He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!

He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!


My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.

I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?

Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...

Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!


**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!


* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.

 I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.

When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.


**UPDATE 2!!

The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!


im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(

She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.


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by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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by Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 1:57 PM
Oh my goodness I'm scared for my dd to grow up anymore she is in 1st grade and this scares the crap outta me. I know that kinda stuff would come along in jr. High never thought 4th grade WOW home schooling is sounding better every day!
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by Bronze Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:03 PM
My son won't have a computer in his room. It's so sad what we as parents have to deal with now to keep our kids safe.
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by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:23 PM
I had almost the exact same situation last year, also when my son was in 4th. He wouldn't tell me who he heard it from, his answer led me to believe it was a group of boys. I wasn't prepared for that conversation, but it had to be done. You should have seen how releived he was when I told him that he would not have to do that to his wife. He knew the mechanics of sex, but he asked if he would pee on her. We have so many blocks on our computer, he can't even go to wwe websites without me. Which I love, have you seen those divas? But the laptap can only be used in common areas, never in his bedroom. My big concern, will our boys grow up with messed up ideas on sex?
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by Anonymous 117 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:51 PM
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by Anonymous 118 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:57 PM
I dont know how old your son is but he can access porn on cell phones just as easily.

Quoting SallyStitches:

My son won't have a computer in his room. It's so sad what we as parents have to deal with now to keep our kids safe.
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:58 PM
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Oh wow! I'm so glad you called. It sounded a bit much for a 4th grader to know about in such detail, but these days you never know. Now what if no one would have called? Who knows what would have happened. Way to go! I'd rather be over protective then find out the worst.

by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 3:34 PM
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I am so glad you told the school what was going on, I think so often people are shocked but just say oh well there is nothing I can do and never address it. Now the parents know and are so thankful. It is so crazy that an adult online was giving that boy all that information, just shows to keep check with kids and what their doing on the internet. 

by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 3:37 PM
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oh my gosh, that's one hell of an update... I didn't expect that! It's a great thing that you called! I just have to wonder though... how did his parents NOT know that he was looking at that stuff online? I don't know about other mom's, but I monitor my kids' online! Ugh, I just hope they can catch the guy that is sending him that stuff.

by JoseManuelVargas on Mar. 20, 2013 at 5:50 PM

throwing up

by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 6:09 PM

You are a pretty smart cookie!!!  A guy I work with & his wife has 2 daughters age 6 & 8.   They cleaned out one room of ALL furniture & then set up 4 computers in a row up against the barest wall.  The girls are NOT allowed to touch their computer unless Mom or Dad is sitting there with them.  Once everyone is on their own computer Mom & Dad look over to see what the girls are doing at any time they get the urge.  They set up a plan as to which one is going to look when & it keeps the girls off guard!!!  ALL it takes are responsible parents that CARE what's going on with their children!!!

Quoting dragonqueen:

That is freakin's scary. I am so glad we have our computer in the living room.

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