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Are fourth graders having sex? *Update* UPDATE#2 HUGE!!!

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 My son is in 4th grade.. Hes 10.

He came home from school yesterday and just has to tell me about the things this boy in his class told him. Im listening. This CHILD told my CHILD he watches sex online. That he seen a man put his penis in a girl butt, pee, and the pee came out her mouth o.O First, WTF. Second, thats impossibile. He then goes on to tell him other anal videos hes watches, oral and "regular". That its ok if a girl wont let you put it in her butt, you can use her mouth!!!

He told him how he goes to red tube (? never heard of it) and watches this. Says you can even tell girls what to do. He tells them to take their clothes off, and they do it! And, that when Jordan (my son) gets home, he should go right to his room, lock the door, and go check out redtube! WTF!!

He goes even firther to tell him he has had sex before. I dont buy it, but you NEVER KNOW. Maybe he is being molested, and is confused? And, how you can sneak and touch girls boobs. And that once, he touched a much older girls boob and she said she liked it!


My jaw? DOWN TO THE EFFING FLOOR. I am ever so grateful we have raised our child well and he came RIGHT to me, not the computer.

I called the school and the phone just rang. It always does that after 4:00, and Jordan doesnt get home until 4. So, I wrote a letter. For many reasons. One, if his parents are unaware, and I would assume and hope they are, they NEED to know what their child is doing online! And two, what if he has had sexual interaction? What if hes been abused and thinks its something else?

Waiting for the school to call. Im sure they will...

Ok, no they wont. Just happened to see my long letter, laying on the couch. He forgot it. Im calling now. Ill update!


**Just called. The secretary said I need to speak with the assitant principal and she is in a meeting. Took down my info and will have her call me back!


* Vp just called.. As soon as I started talking she gasped. Kept saying oh my.. oh my gosh.. She said she has heard some stuff but never anything liked this. She was pretty shocked. She said she would not speak to and embarrass jordan unless I wanted her to. I told her it was fine, I already prepared him and told him not be be shy- it was important. She said she was going to put his class on alert, and inform all the special area teachers and lunch ladies to keep ears out for the conversations amongst those students. When I told her the boys name she knew him right away. I dont know if thats a good or bad thing. She kept oh my gosh, I cant believe.. Then said she would be taking appropriate action, of course getting in contact with his parents, and that was all. End of convo.

 I know its not my business anymore, but I wish she could update me.

When jordan gets home I will ask him if he was called to the office. If so, Ill update again.


**UPDATE 2!!

The vp called! She said she just wanted to thank me for calling, and no shrugging this off as some boys will be boys thing. She talked to m__ and his answers shed some light on some disturbing things. She said that she didnt need to, and wont be, talking to jordan- the boys own answers were enough and the links and photos all real. She said he has been getting things from an ONLINE stranger and authorities are now involved. She then said thats all she is allowed to say, she and his parents, just wanted to truly thank me!!


im SUPER shocked. NEVER imagined this. Im soooo glad I called. So glad. That poor boy :(

She also told me to thank Jordan for coming to me right away, and to ask him to please not tell any of his classmates.


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by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 12:54 AM

i dont know you,, but i THANK YOU to eternity:>   that was SO BRAVE of you and your child. this  horrofied me, and just made my heart cry.   i am so thankful that you took action. 

by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 12:59 AM
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Sounds like someone was grooming that poor boy, so glad you found out about it & took action.  I hope that sick person gets caught & prosecuted.  Poor kid, he is probably so confused.

by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 1:47 AM
When my daughter was in kindergarden, there was a boy on the bus that she told me he showed her his pee pee. I did report it. I know kids will be kids but I felt like I should say something. I asked them not to make a big deal out of it , just stop it. Prevent it. Well now alot of the mothers don't talk to me anymore.
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 6:14 AM
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wow, you have a good boy, and you have done a great job mom, for him to be able to come to you without hesitation, is one of the greatest things to convey to your child. that he knows he can come to you about ANYTHING, no matter what , is awesome, it makes me cry with  happiness,for your communication with him. So much of the time, people forget what is important, and communication with a parent without fear is key  to a happy, safe, confident, well adjusted child. You not only saved  your son from this, you  also saved someone else's child, by doing the right  thing, you should be very proud of  yourself

by Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:43 AM
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 Ahh MASH, those were the good old days.

Quoting KaitlynEileen:

This is awful. I remember when I was that age me and my friends had crushes, and thought holding hands was a big deal. Lol in 5th grade we would talk about Who we would marry, and play mash. Not talk about this disgusting crap.


by Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:47 AM

Please keep us posted. This is a sick and sad situation for all involved. I think you did the right thing by telling the school. Maybe i didn't quite understand but you said a "stranger" sent this stuff to the boy?

by Silver Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:52 AM
Haha yes! And houses and mansions were acceptable. But if you got shack your friends laughed at you! I miss those days!

Quoting monica4_85:

 Ahh MASH, those were the good old days.

Quoting KaitlynEileen:

This is awful. I remember when I was that age me and my friends had crushes, and thought holding hands was a big deal. Lol in 5th grade we would talk about Who we would marry, and play mash. Not talk about this disgusting crap.


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by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 9:46 PM

Sometimes God uses us as angels in someone else's life. For that child, you are that angel. You did not stand idly by nor dismiss it as "talk" but you stood up, spoke out and perhaps saved that child's very life. On behalf of humanity, I say, Thank you!!

by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 10:46 PM

Wo good for you and your son!

by Anonymous 119 on Mar. 21, 2013 at 10:55 PM
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Going to the school was the right thing to do. As educators we are equipped to handle these situations in a calm and professional manner. Plus if there is any hint of child abuse we are legally required to report it. With these conversations being of a sexual nature they just may be viewed as a case of sexual harassment. That is taken VERY seriously at the schools. Blowing the whistle on this kid helps protect your child and possibly others from being subjected to his crap. You will not be told of the outcome regarding the boy because of privacy issues. Good job at taking a stand to protect your child!

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