I've been cheating on my husband for 5 months... ***UPDATE!!!***
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I can't believe that this is what my marriage has become. It's only been two years and the spark left right before "I do". My DH was a completely different person when we were dating. Once I moved myself and my girls with him, he became a different person. I was introduced to a man that is around our age that grew up with him. I feel horrible because the way I expected to feel about my DH, I feel about this man. My heart beats fast when I think about him and it scares the hell out of me. I feel like we are soulmates...he understands me and the struggles I've been through. I can't see myself with DH any longer because I realize that I can be happy with someone I don't have to pretend to like. The sex is the most amazing thing I have ever felt and I can't do anything about it...because I'm stuck in this marriage right now.
********** Just wanted to thank ALL of you ladies for the feedback. I am no stranger here, so I expected the judgement and name calling, but I was also hopeful for words of advice. My husband and I have been seperated for a few months now but we are still living together. As roomates, like one poster said on here yesterday. It was almost as if writing this post was the wake up call I needed. I know I need to end this affair for my sanity and my husband's heart because no matter what happened, he didn't deserve this. It's so hard because, believe it or not, I have developed actual feelings for this other man and he the same. He has told me he loves me and I don't want to hurt him either. But, the reality is, someone is going to get hurt and it very well may be me. I am planning to tell him and I will let you know when I do. Thankfully, I did recieve some great advice yesterday and I am ready to face whatever comes because of this.***********
Why are you stuck in a marriage?
I don't know what you were hoping to get from this post, but it most likely won't be empathy.
You aren't stuck. You can always leave. Divorce is a lot kinder than destroying your husband and lying to everyone.
Quoting LaughingCheetah:
Do your DH a favor and tell HIM....not us. Why did you even marry him if the spark left before you said your I Do's?
I plan on it. I married him because I loved him and I hoped that once we completed our marriage counseling he would understand what I believed could be a potential problem and work with me to fix it. Unfortunately that didn't happen.
No, I don't need people to empathize or whatever. You can feel how you'd like to feel. I just needed to vent. Truly, I wouldn't mind if no one responded. it felt good to get it off my chest some kind of way. Kind of like building up the courage for the inevitable
Quoting lwalker270:
Why are you stuck in a marriage?
I don't know what you were hoping to get from this post, but it most likely won't be empathy.
I think my husband's a sociopath
FIL was arrested for assaulting me