so dh and i have actively been looking for vehicle #2. he has been on the main computer (my laptop) a lot looking on craigslist. well, the other day, after we got through "exchanging" one vehicle for another i had to reset my insurance info. new password had to be e-mailed, so i go in and pull up yahoo. it's logged into dh's account. i see a SHIT LOAD of "married and lonely" messages. i didn't say anything at that moment cause kids were up and i wasnt' sure how dh would respond, so i waited til bed time. so i told dh the story. at first he said i was snooping. i said, i was NOT! i pulled up yahoo to check my account for a password reset, and there it was-he then agreed that it was his fault he didn't close out the window and log out. he said he USED to be a part of married and lonley with xw and doesn't even know his login information anymore cause this "family (his words) is too important to him". he also said "besides, you have THE car m-f so IF i was to cheat, they'd have to come here, and you know too many neighbors for it to NOT get back to you that some one was there (neighbors did tell me when they saw bm show up while i was at work-i knew she was going to). he fired up the computer, went to this site, and let me try to log in. and of course (no account found). at first, he was pissed because for a split second i was thinking he was working on cheating on me (yes i did, i got sick to my stomach). he did say, next time, just show me, and get it over with so you're not lingering on about it. he's been openly talking about it asking friends how to get those messages to stop-he's not willing to delete his account because job apps have been given that e-mail for contact.
he also reminded me that his account got hacked, so there's not telling where his account has been used. (it did).
would you have responded this way? believed him?
i do believe him because i have heard by so many sources (even some of his friends that doesn't like me) tell me in simple convo how he feels for me.
it just took me by surprise to see so many messages from this ONE site.