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I hate the what's mine is ours mentality

Anonymous
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No. What's mine is mine. What's yours is yours. What we buy together is ours, or whichever person's who actually uses it. My bank account is mine, yours is yours. This house is yours. The house we are building together will be ours.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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I'd hate to be married to you.
TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:15 PM
Different strokes for different folks
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:15 PM
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the law in most states says otherwise.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:16 PM
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It works for a lot of people. My opinion is that people should do what works for them, and not worry about what other people do.

Moe1521
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:18 PM
Yup!

DH and I have community property, very few things being just mine or just his. However, I know that this doesn't work for everyone, and I respect OP enough for having a different style than myself.



Quoting Anonymous:

It works for a lot of people. My opinion is that people should do what works for them, and not worry about what other people do.


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inspain
by Platinum Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:18 PM
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I don't undertstand the "what's mine is mine" way of thinking.  

I came into this marriage with quite a bit of real estate.  The first thing I did was add my DH (two months before our marriage) to two deeds and, from then on, put him on everything.  We only have joint accounts.  

Hell, the only things we apply the "mine" rule to are the bag of organic suckers in the back fridge (his) and the occasional bag of Double Stuf Oreos, which no one but me likes anyway.  (that doesn't sound right "me likes"...any grammar Nazis wanna help me out with that one?)

I know people who do the "what's mine is mine" bit with money and objects.  Not one of them has what I'd consider a sucessful marriage and several are no longer married.

RaynesMommy07
by Ruby Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:19 PM
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To each their own.
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Mom2KIL
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:19 PM
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So, I take it that you aren't too kind to SAHMs that aren't contributing financially?
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zebbyzebby06
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:19 PM
Dhs debt became our debt once we married and I didn't care I knew what debt he had and it didn't.bother me.
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happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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I don't know- I think that after 20+years, IT'S ALL MINE!!! hehehehehe

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