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Is this rape? Small edit...

Anonymous
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A guy friend of mine got really drunk at a party, when he woke up the next morning people were talking about how some "friends" were joking and stripped him down. One of them even stuck their fingers in his ass. I said he needs to go report it, that its rape. He is humiliated, and thinks maybe its his own fault for getting so drunk. What do you think?

Edit, he is bi. Some ladies have asked if this is something he would consent to sober, so, to answer, he might
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:24 PM
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AnastasiaKorsh
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:26 PM
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Yes, I think he should report it.

I'm sorry that happened to him.

illinoismommy83
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:27 PM

That fits the legal definition of rape. 

paganmommy4
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:27 PM
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Being drunk or passed out is NOT a green light for anything, so yes its rape.. Since when does this culture once again blame people for being drunk?

crashblossom
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:28 PM

Absolutely but very unfortunately men often don't report sexual abuse. :( 

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ashleighmama
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:29 PM
Yes its rape. So sorry for your friend.
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Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:29 PM
that is rape. He could report it, but it's unlikely he would. Guys are weird about reporting things like that. :(
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stephsmom05
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:30 PM

Absolutely.  If he were sober would he have let it happen?  Probably not.

B1Bomber
by Platinum Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:31 PM
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What happened to common decency? It doesn't surprise me that there are rapists and criminals, but these attacks are happening in front of people. Why does no one intervene?

Bellum
by Bronze Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:31 PM

If he had been a girl, it  would not have been a question.  Yes, it is rape.

AnHpuresugar
by Ruby Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 6:31 PM
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Yes. It is sexual assault.
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