Do you believe that people only treat you how you let them treat you?
I read so many stories of how all of these women are controlled, intimidated, and scared of their bf, SO, or Dh, etc. It makes me sad and glad that I have never been in that situation, but then again, I don't allow people to intimidate me either. I try not to judge, I really do, but when you constantly make excuses and refuse to leave, then what exactly do you want us to say?? I strongly believe that people only treat you how you allow them to treat you. It is NOT your fault that they started the behavior or that they chose to act that way, but if you choose to stay, even when people are offering to help you out of the situation, then that is at the very least careless.
I have seen so much of this first hand and it breaks my heart. If I had the means to do so, I would come rescue each and every single one of you out of whatever bad situation you are in, but unfortunately, I am not and it seems as if some of you don't want it. It is like an addict...you have to want to be out of the situation...no one can force you. That is what they taught us when I volunteered at the domestic violence center...you can't force someone to leave, you can only support them and give them options and follow through with them if they choose to let you help. I hope you ladies who are in these types of situations will choose to let someone help you before it is too late. I'd help you personally if possible, but I am not in the financial situation to help anyone right now. However, I do know people who can help if you are in my area (Tennessee) and even if you are not, I would be happy to talk to anyone that needs help and try to help you find the resources you need.
I'm just throwing all that out there. Good night!