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my dd's school bus driver has diagnosed her dyslexic.....**edit***edit2 Talked to teacher

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so I am waiting with my kids for my dd's bus to come this morning in my van. I have to leave immediately after dd's bus comes to get ds to school on time. The bus comes and we are about to take off when my dd gets off the bus and tells me her bus driver wants to talk to me. I go over there and she proceeds to tell me that she has noticed Ivy is having great difficulty reading and because of that, she has placed her with an older child to sit with so the other kid can tutor my dd. She also said that Ivy is dyslexic and she has a friend that makes flash cards if I am interested. Funny thing tho, I just got Ivy's second trimester report card, which said she was reading above her grade level and the teacher is quite proud of her accomplishments. The teacher and I just had a talk a month ago about how Ivy just all of a sudden started reading and now she reads everything she can, the teacher was especially impressed how she sounds out 4 and 5 syllable words. The bus driver also told me she is making the girls write sentences on the rides to and from school and if they turn in a book report to her on Fridays they get to pick from a goodie bag. I am all for encouraging the girls to read and write, but I kind of feel she is over stepping the bounds of a bus driver. I told her I would talk to my dd's teacher about her reading, but should I mention to the principle about the sentences and book reports, and most importantly, the diagnosis?

***edit***   Ivy is just in Kindergarten. I home schooled her and her twin brother but I didnt feel comfortable after a year to have them try first grade. They are 7yrs old. She just clicked with the reading back in January. I spoke with her teacher at that time and she said that is how some of them do, it's like a lightbulb going off. My dd is not even close to dyslexic. What I dont get is why the bus driver thinks she is having so much trouble that she felt the need to talk to me about it, when I myself hear Ivy read every day and she has no difficulty at all. I can deal with her having books to read on the ride and offering the kids a prize if they give her a book report but seriously, if she is paying enough attention to my dd reading on a bus full of girls (she goes to an all girls school) how much attention is she paying to the road? I know just having my twins engaged in a lively conversation behind me it can be distracting. I am going to ask my dd how she feels about the "tutoring" and then shoot off an email to her teacher tomorrow. I will let you all know what she says, and thanks for the support and ideas on how to deal with this

***edit2...well, I talked to Ivy and the teacher... Ivy said it startedthe week before spring break (last week) when she brought her Backyardigan's book to school to read on the bus. She was having trouble seeing the words because the bus was so bumpy. She said the bus driver called her out on it and embarrassed her by making her sit with the other girl. I asked her why she didnt tell me and she said she was too embarrassed..

Talked to teacher this morning. She was totally floored by this and said Ivy was no way near dyslexic and was in fact her top reader in the class. She said that Ivy scores 100% every day in comprehension and often helps others that are struggling with phonics. She said she is doing great in her other subjects as well, and if the year wasnt so close to being over she would see about moving her to First grade. She mentioned that if I was willing, and worked with her over the summer that she could recommend they test her before school starts to see if they can put her in second grade

As for the bus driver, I am going to talk to her Monday and let her know I talked to Ivy's teacher and she is just fine. I am also going to ask her to not single Ivy out with the tutoring anymore as she does not need it and it embarrasses her.

Thanks for all the ideas and support you guys have given in this post :)

by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 8:41 AM
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JamesMom714
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:07 AM
She's the bus driver, not the teacher... I would pay any attention to her. I would also start driving my kid to school if it became an issue.
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CeeGee81
by CanadaGirl on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:07 AM

Ummm I would tel the bus driver to mind her own business.  She has no right to have your daughter tutor and give her 'writing assignments"

Seriously who the hell does she think she is.  She's a bus driver. 

My mother is a bus driver and her job is to get them to a from school alive.  That's it, that's all.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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You need to talk to the driver again, ask how long she has been doing this with your DD, ask if she has an educational back ground and how she noticed DD's reading. Which will be easier for you to do over the phone then at the bus stop. Then talk to Ivy, how does she feel about reading on the bus, does she like having an older kid help her read, does she like to write the reports and so on. Once you have all of that information talk to the teacher.

Quoting shivasgirl:

I agree, I dont want her to get into trouble or lose her job. I just really dont know how to go about talking to her teacher without saying, "The bus driver said...." lol, kwim?

Quoting Anonymous:

The bus driver has no right to try to diagnoses your DD, that we agree about. My point was that your DD may be reading above grade level now because of what she is learning on the bus. Find out more before you go nuclear on the driver.



Quoting shivasgirl:

well the thing is that the bus driver is complaining about Ivy's ability, when her teacher is impressed. Ivy was right there when the driver told me she is dyslexic and has trouble reading. I can only imaging that would be confusing to my dd as she gets nothing but positive feedback from me and her teacher

Quoting Anonymous:

While I agree the driver is over stepping, I would ask how long this set up has been going on. It could be that this bus driver taught your DD to be a confident reader and you're just finding out.



shivasgirl
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:12 AM

thanks, that makes sense... I was just so blown away I didnt know how to go about it :)

Quoting Anonymous:

You need to talk to the driver again, ask how long she has been doing this with your DD, ask if she has an educational back ground and how she noticed DD's reading. Which will be easier for you to do over the phone then at the bus stop. Then talk to Ivy, how does she feel about reading on the bus, does she like having an older kid help her read, does she like to write the reports and so on. Once you have all of that information talk to the teacher.

Quoting shivasgirl:

I agree, I dont want her to get into trouble or lose her job. I just really dont know how to go about talking to her teacher without saying, "The bus driver said...." lol, kwim?

Quoting Anonymous:

The bus driver has no right to try to diagnoses your DD, that we agree about. My point was that your DD may be reading above grade level now because of what she is learning on the bus. Find out more before you go nuclear on the driver.



Quoting shivasgirl:

well the thing is that the bus driver is complaining about Ivy's ability, when her teacher is impressed. Ivy was right there when the driver told me she is dyslexic and has trouble reading. I can only imaging that would be confusing to my dd as she gets nothing but positive feedback from me and her teacher

Quoting Anonymous:

While I agree the driver is over stepping, I would ask how long this set up has been going on. It could be that this bus driver taught your DD to be a confident reader and you're just finding out.




notabosley
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:13 AM
I would report her, after saying F you, you have no right to be giving my child assignments. Just shut up and drive, that is your f-ing job.
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joyfullem
by Bronze Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:13 AM

I understand that maybe try telling her that and explaining that your daughter is exactly where she needs to be, but as some of the other posters have said maybe your daughter 'all of the sudden started reading' because of the one on one help she is getting?  who knows

Quoting shivasgirl:

I know, she is older, and we are in Florida so most of the bus drivers are retirees. I dont want to jeopardize anyones livelihood, but I really dont like someone telling me my kid is dyslexic and behind when she obviously isnt. 

Quoting joyfullem:

Just food for thought how old is the bus driver?  I know a good amount of people in this area start driving a bus when they retire.  It has great benifits, you work only a few hours a day and you have summers off.   Maybe she/he was a teacher and retired and started driving a bus?  Or maybe the ride is boring and they notice way too much.  No the driver should not require the children to do anything more than stay seated but before you complain and potentially hurt their job think about an alternative.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:17 AM
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No problem, for all we know the driver could be a retired teacher with a passion to teach kids to read. After you find out more information, it'll be easier to decide how to approach the teacher/ school.

Quoting shivasgirl:

thanks, that makes sense... I was just so blown away I didnt know how to go about it :)

Quoting Anonymous:

You need to talk to the driver again, ask how long she has been doing this with your DD, ask if she has an educational back ground and how she noticed DD's reading. Which will be easier for you to do over the phone then at the bus stop. Then talk to Ivy, how does she feel about reading on the bus, does she like having an older kid help her read, does she like to write the reports and so on. Once you have all of that information talk to the teacher.



Quoting shivasgirl:

I agree, I dont want her to get into trouble or lose her job. I just really dont know how to go about talking to her teacher without saying, "The bus driver said...." lol, kwim?

Quoting Anonymous:

The bus driver has no right to try to diagnoses your DD, that we agree about. My point was that your DD may be reading above grade level now because of what she is learning on the bus. Find out more before you go nuclear on the driver.





Quoting shivasgirl:

well the thing is that the bus driver is complaining about Ivy's ability, when her teacher is impressed. Ivy was right there when the driver told me she is dyslexic and has trouble reading. I can only imaging that would be confusing to my dd as she gets nothing but positive feedback from me and her teacher

Quoting Anonymous:

While I agree the driver is over stepping, I would ask how long this set up has been going on. It could be that this bus driver taught your DD to be a confident reader and you're just finding out.




cadditalbrat
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:17 AM


Quoting askmommy:

Yes. You should mention this to the principal as she is not qualified to make such Dx.
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Allisonc7910
by Gold Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:18 AM

 I don't see the issue other than her saying your dd is dyslexic.  She is not requiring the students to do it for a grade.  Maybe she has worked for the school for a long time and she knows a lot of teachers and okayed it.  Unless she is saying these kids "have to" let it go.  Some of those kids probably want to do it.

Bethsunshine
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:18 AM

That bus driver has stepped WAY over her bounds! It is NOT her place to diagnose anything and it is CERTAINLY not her place to make the students read or write sentences. Why isn't she paying closer attention to the road?

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