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my dd's school bus driver has diagnosed her dyslexic.....**edit***edit2 Talked to teacher

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so I am waiting with my kids for my dd's bus to come this morning in my van. I have to leave immediately after dd's bus comes to get ds to school on time. The bus comes and we are about to take off when my dd gets off the bus and tells me her bus driver wants to talk to me. I go over there and she proceeds to tell me that she has noticed Ivy is having great difficulty reading and because of that, she has placed her with an older child to sit with so the other kid can tutor my dd. She also said that Ivy is dyslexic and she has a friend that makes flash cards if I am interested. Funny thing tho, I just got Ivy's second trimester report card, which said she was reading above her grade level and the teacher is quite proud of her accomplishments. The teacher and I just had a talk a month ago about how Ivy just all of a sudden started reading and now she reads everything she can, the teacher was especially impressed how she sounds out 4 and 5 syllable words. The bus driver also told me she is making the girls write sentences on the rides to and from school and if they turn in a book report to her on Fridays they get to pick from a goodie bag. I am all for encouraging the girls to read and write, but I kind of feel she is over stepping the bounds of a bus driver. I told her I would talk to my dd's teacher about her reading, but should I mention to the principle about the sentences and book reports, and most importantly, the diagnosis?

***edit***   Ivy is just in Kindergarten. I home schooled her and her twin brother but I didnt feel comfortable after a year to have them try first grade. They are 7yrs old. She just clicked with the reading back in January. I spoke with her teacher at that time and she said that is how some of them do, it's like a lightbulb going off. My dd is not even close to dyslexic. What I dont get is why the bus driver thinks she is having so much trouble that she felt the need to talk to me about it, when I myself hear Ivy read every day and she has no difficulty at all. I can deal with her having books to read on the ride and offering the kids a prize if they give her a book report but seriously, if she is paying enough attention to my dd reading on a bus full of girls (she goes to an all girls school) how much attention is she paying to the road? I know just having my twins engaged in a lively conversation behind me it can be distracting. I am going to ask my dd how she feels about the "tutoring" and then shoot off an email to her teacher tomorrow. I will let you all know what she says, and thanks for the support and ideas on how to deal with this

***edit2...well, I talked to Ivy and the teacher... Ivy said it startedthe week before spring break (last week) when she brought her Backyardigan's book to school to read on the bus. She was having trouble seeing the words because the bus was so bumpy. She said the bus driver called her out on it and embarrassed her by making her sit with the other girl. I asked her why she didnt tell me and she said she was too embarrassed..

Talked to teacher this morning. She was totally floored by this and said Ivy was no way near dyslexic and was in fact her top reader in the class. She said that Ivy scores 100% every day in comprehension and often helps others that are struggling with phonics. She said she is doing great in her other subjects as well, and if the year wasnt so close to being over she would see about moving her to First grade. She mentioned that if I was willing, and worked with her over the summer that she could recommend they test her before school starts to see if they can put her in second grade

As for the bus driver, I am going to talk to her Monday and let her know I talked to Ivy's teacher and she is just fine. I am also going to ask her to not single Ivy out with the tutoring anymore as she does not need it and it embarrasses her.

Thanks for all the ideas and support you guys have given in this post :)

by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 8:41 AM
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ZakkarysMom
by Gold Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:21 AM
What a whack-a-do
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Crymsm
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:21 AM
I would tell her to please stick with driving a bus and not acting like a teacher...
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jessi2girls
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:21 AM

actually to keep control on the bus, I like the idea of her suggesting they do school like work on the way home..

BUT for her to try to discuss issues like your daughters' reading skills and make the suggestion that she has dyslexic is way overstepping her bounds...

talk to her teacher about your daughters reading for your peace of mind, but then go to the principle and ask about the bus drivers and discuss the comment the bus driver made.

AutymsMommy
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:21 AM
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Even a teacher cannot dx dyslexia. So even if she is a retired teacher, she still is overstepping boundaries (and if she WERE a retired teacher, she would know that).

It isn't something worth the woman losing her job over. Her intentions seem pure. I would tell her that she needs to not tell your child that she isn't good at "x" and that you do not want her handing out assignments, but you thank her for her concern.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














1RedHottMama
by Gold Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:21 AM

It sounds like the bus driver is trying to be helpful and maybe your daughter is doing so well in school because of the tutoring. I would ask your daughter how she feels about it and go from there,it may be a good thing for her and she is just trying to help.unless she is doing harm to your child I don't see a reason to report it. Your daughter may enjoy the extra help.

mommysangelface
by Emerald Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:23 AM
I would report it hun.


She Is beyond overstepping her bounds


Quoting shivasgirl:

lol, I know, I just dont know if I should report it... I mean it's good that she is encouraging the girls to read and write, but giving homework and making diagnosis?

Quoting bear.katten:

Thinkin' they can teach because they're a BUS DRIVER n shit!


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moosesmom
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:24 AM
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LMAOOOO! True!

OP I don't know how you even stood there with a straight face! LOL! As I was reading this I was laughing. Clearly teaching is her calling. Tell her to trade in that commercial drivers license for a degree in education AND THEN you guys can have a serious conversation. Smh! Some people...


Quoting bear.katten:

Thinkin' they can teach because they're a BUS DRIVER n shit!



Lol no but in all seriousness, I wouldnt be taking educational advice from someone who drives a bus for a living! Speak to her teacher or her pedi.
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ilana_ny
by Gold Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:24 AM

No, I whould not make a big deal out of it. I don't really care what other people think or say about my kids. 

BeAmour
by Tonya on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:24 AM

 Well, there you go! An OBVIOUSLY qualified and trained professional! lol

CutieCrab
by Jen on Mar. 20, 2013 at 9:28 AM

 She is a bus driver not a doctor, she has NO business diagnosing your daughter!!  And book reports?? Wth is that??  She is not a teacher, and your daughter doesn't have to do anything she says, besides behave on the bus. The bus is the drivers domain.... That is it. She needs to mind her own business, although I guess itw as ncie of her to tell you her concerns, BUT just tell her you have spoken to her teacher and she is reading above grade level and and the book reports are not needed.

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