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Affairs- did you really not know

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I hear a lot of women say they were blind sided by affairs. I am just curious if you really truly didn't know or wanted to deny it?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 20, 2013 at 11:38 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 16 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:05 PM

I was totally caught off guard. I knew he looked at porn online, never realized he was chatting with the ow until he confessed. He emailed from work and was not attending class to meet up with her. Honestly I didn't believe him when he told me until the day ow called my house and lied about who she was and I actually took dh's phone saw a text and text her back. The only signs I guess before he told me was we had grown apart or that his phone was never left out in the open, but mine is rarely not with me and I am not having an affair.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 17 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:06 PM
My husband had an emotional affair. I knew within the week that it started. I think people choose not to see the signs.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 18 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:07 PM
Well there were a bunch of signs. I always accused him but he would always deny it. Then he got caught up. The OW was supposed to be my friend and got mad when I started accusing them of messing around. Then she ended up tellin it all. They had been messing around for 3 months. But shes liked him since before we got married.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 19 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:09 PM

My ex-husband didn't have an affair but he did make a plan and then abandoned me and our daughter. I had no clue, none what-so-ever. We seemed happy, we were still having great sex, he changed in no way. Little did I know he was giving all of our money to his mom and not paying any of our bills. The day he moved (to live with his mom) he left me one vehicle with no gas in it and everything in the apartment. The next day I received a 5-day eviction notice and the lights turned off. Fun fun....

Bero2007
by Bronze Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:09 PM

 I think it depends on the situation. If it's a man that is used to hiding behaviours then he could very well pull it off without you knowing it.

Stephd710
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:09 PM

Leaving the room to talk on the phone. Late nights out after work (he said EVERYONE from work went out). He had mentioned each of the women to me and said how they each were having boyfriend/husband problems.  He would pick fights with me then be all sweet again (presumably when the affairs would end).   


Quoting Anonymous:

What signs?


Quoting Stephd710:

I had no idea about the first two.  I had suspicions on the 3rd which led me to investigate.....then he confessed to 2 others.  Now looking back the signs were there, I just wasnt looking for them.  




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:10 PM
I wanna know


Quoting Anonymous:

 


You know nothing about me or my situation at the time, so please dont even guess.


Quoting Anonymous:

No, you can't help the way you feel...but you can help the way you act. In your case, you didn't even try.



Quoting Anonymous:


I admit when I had an affair, it just happened, I did not think I would ever do it, but sometimes you cant help what you feel





 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 20 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:12 PM
How do you accidentally end up in bed with another man? Did you slip and fall on his penis?


Quoting Anonymous:

I admit when I had an affair, it just happened, I did not think I would ever do it, but sometimes you cant help what you feel


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:13 PM

Do about it?  like work it out with the Hubby?  Been there_done that...   that marriage was dissolved


Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe you can't help what you feel, but you CAN help what you do about it.

Quoting Anonymous:

I admit when I had an affair, it just happened, I did not think I would ever do it, but sometimes you cant help what you feel

 

 


 

jenmomx3
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:14 PM

 oh. 

Quoting Toxic.Stardust:

he slipped and fell on her vagina

Quoting jenmomx3:

 How was it an accident?  Not being snarky, genuinely curious.

Quoting Toxic.Stardust:

well his cheating was a total accident so yes, it did come as a surprise to both of us :)

 


 

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