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What Do You DO When Your Child Throws a Tantrum?

Anonymous
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inspired by another post. just curious about different parenting types.

do you do things differently when it happens in public vs. when youre at home?


Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:46 PM
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mamalusbear
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:47 PM

I distract him.  If we're in a public place I take him somewhere quiet and he calms down.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:49 PM
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Neither kid has had more than one or two, we punish for tantrums. There have been no public problems, from early on the kids were told that acting up while out will result in a spanking right there and extra punishments at home. They've never tested us.

wulfeyes05
by Ruby Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:50 PM

Tell him he needs to cut it out and if he refuses I walk away. Once my back is turned and my oldest realizes I am not giving in he immediately stops.

aimesnyc
by Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:52 PM

I ignore it at home.  However, when we are out in public his favorite place to throw a tantrum is while we are on the bus and he is strapped to me in the Bjorn.  I try to distract him so that it doesn't get into full-blown tantrum mode, but if it does, I try to ignore him until we get to a stop close enough to home that I can get off and walk the rest of the way with him.  There are usually some understanding people, but always those that give you dirty looks.  I always apologize to everyone on the bus. 

Kmary
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:56 PM

Slightly different at home vs. public, but more or less the same idea.  At home, I used to just walk away.  No speaking, no getting mad, just plain leave the room until he was done.  Once it was over with I would SUPER calmly say something like, "Are you ready now to...blah blah blah?"  Whatever it was that I wanted him to do or not do.  If we were in public, I basically did the exact same thing only I wouldn't completely leave due to safety reasons.  But I would just stand there calmly, maybe look at my phone or look at some things on the store shelf or whatever happens to be around.  Seems to have worked.  My boys are 3 and 5 and I probably couldn't count on one hand the number of times each has had a tantrum, especially in public.  They want a reaction-positive or negative- so I give them neither.  Unfortunately for them, I don't embarass easily, so it happening in public never got me worked up at all.  Little kids have tantrums.  I don't care who's looking at us, nor do I barely notice if some other kid is having one. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:56 PM

If my children start to throw a tantrum in public, I look at them and say "People are watching you.  They are thinking that you are being such a brat right now."  Usually stops it in its tracks.  They do not like being the center of attention like that.

mariesmama
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:57 PM

if she throws a fit in public we leave sshe hasnt since like 1 and a half if she throws a fit at home she gets sent to her room till she calms down

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:58 PM
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We escort her to the nearest restroom and tear her ass up...then ask her if she can behave the rest of the time we are wherever we are etc wait on her to calm down wipe her face with a damp napkin tell her we love her and she has to behave in public :)
SB2217
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:58 PM
Depending on what is it about (spanking, removed from place to calm down, distract, etc). My kids rarely throw a tantrum. My oldest (3.5) did once or twice. Now, a warning on what's going to happen if she does its all she needs to think again and behave.
IIF they do throw a tantrum they get disciplined right there and there. A spanking or two and we are back to behaving. And they know they better not cry or make a scene either (when they are calmer I talk to them and explain everything and reminding them WHY they have to behave, why they were disciplined, that mommy loves them, etc) .
Fortunately, BECAUSE we bit that in the butt the very first time, they are awesome in public, which is a big deal because we are always out and about and I couldn't imagine doing that with kids who are always throwing tantrums. It would be a nightmare.
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by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 20, 2013 at 12:59 PM

When my SD was 6, she threw a tantrum because she wanted her father and he had run to the store.  She said she was hungry and wanted a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, so I made one.  She promptly threw it on the floor and ran to her room screaming that I didn't know how to make a PB&J.

I'm afraid I didn't handle it very well.  I went outside and sat on the curb sobbing over the rejection and waited for her father.  He said I should have given her a time out in the bathroom  IDK. I think she would have hated that more.  I should have just talked to her about why she was acting out.

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