If you Cheated Once and Swear it was the First & Last Time, Live with your Guilt and Keep it a Secret.
I think if a person in a committed relationship & they made a horrible decision and cheated, they swear it was just the one time and it was a horrible mistake and they feel guilty. They love their SO and it wont ever happen again and they dont want to lose them. Then they shouldn't tell their special someone that they cheated.
If thats the flipping case why on earth would you tell!?
It is my personal opinion that in this scenario the guilt of that secret is the punishment. If the marriage is all around a happy healthy one and the SO is happy and neither of you want it all fucked up, that it should weigh heavy in secret on your heart forever.
Telling would only break the SO's heart, make them possibly feel guilty &/or inadequate and ruin or end the relationship. The only good thing it would do is ease the one time cheaters immense guilt making them feel better for "being honest"...when truly I think the guilt should be kept. I think relieving that guilt is only good for the cheater and not the SO that was cheated on.
I have known people that have been in this situation before and heard about others here on cafemom being in this situation and I have seen the results of people making either of these choices and it seems to me the choice not to tell and suffer with your guilt always turns out better.
What do you think?