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Trust issues much?

Posted by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:19 AM
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I and my husband recently went through a 5 month seperation. Long story short after the birth of my son i went through a sever case of post and refused to come to terms with it in fear that people would look down on me even more. We had just moved away from my family and moved closer to his and his mother is just THE WORST!!! If you ever wanna feel like a failure as a parent just call this woman. she has a history of SEVER drug abuse and child neglect and will only admit to the drugs she will deny to this day the horrible things she put her children through because NO ONE is a better mother then this biotch. After 4 months of degrading me and patronizing me as a parent i had had enough. DH was working a lot and i hardly saw him. I had no one to vent to so i found comfort in an old friend which was a mistake. Once we worked everything out I can home. His skanky ass ex was still living there in my son's bedroom (I can say skanky because the bitch had a different guy over everynight)Things are now back to normal and Even though i feel like things have been really good between us these last 6 months and now that we are expecting our 2nd child that is not the case. I have nothing to hide but i can not tell you how annoying it is to be monitored 24/7. if my phone goes off and its not next to me the man will break his legs to get to it before i can he is always checking my email and we all get those stupid match.com spam mail every once in awhile well anytime spam like that shows up i'm cheating. I've never cheated I left him before i let it get that far. But 4 years ago after he DID cheat on me i let it go after 3 days. Idk what to do i understand we are in a delicate state but damn i mean the man lied to me for a year and i forgave him in 3 days. I leave him because i was alone and he will never trust me again. Is it even worth staying with him anymore?!!

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Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:24 AM

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......

Baby5232011
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:37 AM

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?


Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......



Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:40 AM

Okay thanks

Is the skanky ex still living with y'all?

Quoting Baby5232011:

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?


Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......




rayroe2
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:40 AM
Sounds like you don't trust.

Quoting Baby5232011:

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?



Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......




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Sapphire.Tears
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:41 AM

I think you should talk to him about therapy.... anyone with that big of a trust issue is probably either harboring some guilt, or he is just extremely paranoid.

I would go with guilt.

laurag8707
by Bronze Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:42 AM
In my experience the one accusing is usually the guilty party
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Baby5232011
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:44 AM

no she finally moved out 3 months ago thankfully 


Quoting Sassy762:

Okay thanks

Is the skanky ex still living with y'all?

Quoting Baby5232011:

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?


Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......






Baby5232011
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:45 AM

No i do trust him we had only been together like 6 months when he cheated on me but i knew he did he just changed and being vulnerable and 18 i couldn't let it go to this day i don't care what DH does as long as he keeps me posted :)


Quoting rayroe2:

Sounds like you don't trust.

Quoting Baby5232011:

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?



Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......






Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:46 AM

WHOOO

Darlin......personally I would leave him.....Y'all have to much baggage between the MIL, the skanky exGF, his cheating and trust issues. That is just too much to deal with

Have you tried marriage counseling???

Quoting Baby5232011:

no she finally moved out 3 months ago thankfully 


Quoting Sassy762:

Okay thanks

Is the skanky ex still living with y'all?

Quoting Baby5232011:

post + satanic MIL caused us to seperate for 5 months

Once post wore off i realized DH was the only one i wanted to be with 

I came home

Tried to get the skanky he had moved into my house out (she refused to leave)

I think things are good expecting baby #2 in sept

He OBVIOUSLY has trust issues

I can't understand why they are so sever still

He cheated 4 years ago denied it for a year (swore on my life the whole time he didn't which only made it worse)

I forgave him for cheating after 3 days

I can't understand why he is being crazy and denying these crazy things

Wondering if its even worth staying in a trustless marriage?


Quoting Sassy762:

Can I get a shortened cliff notes version??? I got confused somewhere around the time that his skanky ass ex was living with DH.......







Baby5232011
by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:47 AM

we've talked about therapy but he want to try to do it on our own but i told him if its not better before the baby gets here we need to do something


Quoting Sapphire.Tears:

I think you should talk to him about therapy.... anyone with that big of a trust issue is probably either harboring some guilt, or he is just extremely paranoid.

I would go with guilt.



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