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17 and Trying to Conceive *ask me anything*

Anonymous
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I know i'm throwing myself to the sharks. And no this isnt a troll.

Let me explain: My mother is turning 35, 3 days after I turn 18 (july) So she was a teen mom. And I had to mature quickly, since my mom was mostly out partying. I had to learn how to do thing for myself at a very young age.

However I WANT this kid. My fiance and I have had many discussions about this topic and we're ready.   Whether you believe it or not.

I bring home right under $1000/monthly and my fiance brings home around $800/monthly. Financially we're ready. We have a budget and we have plenty of $$ left over after paying our car insurance, rent, gas, grocery $ etc. So we're covered there. DF is looking for another job as well. We REFUSE to get any sort of PA. So dont worry there either.

My mom and I dont get along and I moved out at 16 (she didnt care)

As for maturity, I'm naturally really good with kids. And I was what I call, a un-biological mother. My ex- boyfriend and I got serious quick and I lived with him, his drug addict mother, his 12 year old sister and his 10 year old brother. And there was Josh. My exboyfriends, mothers, sisters kid (my ex's cousin) His mom didnt want anything to do with him. No one did. My ex's mom sure as hell didnt. She just stayed in her room stuffing her face with my ex's oxycontin for his chronic back pain, living off of child support, and food stamps. Not giving a shit about anything except getting high.  Josh was 4 months old when i moved in. I felt the need to take care of him since he basically was growing up in his pak-n-play. So everyone in the house considered me, his mom. I sold my shit and saved the money to buy food for Josh (the food stamps were strictly for her) I bathed him, bought him clothes, did nightly routines and put him to bed, played with him, taught him, the whole shabang. Josh was my kid. When josh was 17 months old, my ex-bf and I broke up and I had to move out. His mom refused to let me take Josh and wouldnt let me care for him or see him any longer.. I still miss him and greive over him. I have no idea what sort of enviroment he's in and it eats me alive.. I feel like I abonded him. I should have done more to try and keep him... But back to the point, I learned a lot from that experience. How much kids mean, how special they are in every sense, how they are difficult  but so very worth it, And much more....

My DF is amazing with kids and we're ready. You wont change my mind.

Ask me anything!

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:25 AM
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Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:26 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:26 AM
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Go to bed, troll. Its late.
valeriesmom1112
by Silver Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:27 AM
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Did you graduate hs
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LooneyLovegood
by Ruby Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:27 AM
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No thanks. I got pregnant at 17. I know everything I need to know from my own experience.
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raye-chan
by Raye on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:28 AM

Are you guys going to be prepared if something should happen? Like, an medical emergency, things like that? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:28 AM

 I swear to you I'm not a troll.


Quoting Anonymous:

Go to bed, troll. Its late.


 

NBean311
by Chivette on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:29 AM
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Neither of you intend to get an education? 


$1800 is very minimal for a family of 3. 

5PointedHuman
by Silver Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:29 AM
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How do you feel about the current tension between the DPRK and the USA?

sweetieiv
by Ruby Member on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:30 AM
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If you were really mature like you are trying to say, then you wouldn't be thinking about having children yet. I understand you have a fiance so why not wait until you are married to actually try to conceive? Taking care of other children is NOT at all the same as being a mom. Good luck to you and your stupid idea.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 21, 2013 at 2:30 AM
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You can't possibly be mature enough if you think having a baby at 17 is a good idea, so I have no other comment.
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