ok, a little backstory: so DH and I share a house with my mother. We pay half the rent and buy ALL the food. (except eating out, she pays that, which isnt often) so its not like we're mooching off her, just sharing a house because its cheaper. she in no way supports us, we support ourselves.
this is the part i dont find fair: i do ALL the cleaning. ALL of it. DH is supposed to take out the trash, which he rarely does until the damn thing is overflowing with rubbish and i have to ASK him to do it.. and my mother and DH are supposed to trade off doing the dishes. thats it, thats all i ask for help with. i do the laundry, the sweeping, the mopping, the vacuuming, the picking up, the dusting, the organizing, the scrubbing, the grocery shopping, the dog walking, the cooking..everything! now with ALL that i do, neither DH or my mother will empty the dishwasher. they expect me to do it. which i dont, because..well..i do everything else already and c'mon, your ONE JOB is the dishes and you cant unload? so of course, the shit gets backed up by like 3 loads of dishes, just sittin out on my counters! my mother is constantly saying "i cant do the dishes until you unload them." and usually says that as im scrubbing out the fridge or mopping. are you fn kidding me? you CANT do the dishes? until *I* unload the clean ones? you want me to drop what im doing to come unload the dishes while you are just standing there? seriously? recently, she lost her job, so she's been at home ALL the time. her excuse when she was working was "im tired, ive been working all day. i cant unload and reload the dishes. i'll only do one." but now, she literally does NOTHING all day long. NOTHING AT ALL!! just sits in her recliner on her iphone.. and i still get "i've been waiting 2 days for you to unload the dishes so i can reload them." as im picking up the aftermath of my "kid tornado".. as for DH he works full time, i understand he's a little tired. but i work FULL time too, im with two kids (almost 3) ALL DAY (and night) LONG! i hate that i have to TELL him to do some damn dishes! he should come home, relax for a bit, SEE the dishes overflowing out of the sink and the trash can overflowing with rubbish and just DO it!
i guess my question is, do you think its fair that the ONE FN THING i ask for help with, apparently cannot be done unless *I* unload the dishwasher?!
this is not HER house. in order for it to be HER house, she would: A. have to own it or B. only have her name on the lease, have all bills in her name and pay all the rent.
my name is on the lease, i pay half the rent, all bills are in my name.
if anything, this house is more mine than it is hers. to be fair tho, this is OUR HOUSE.