The ex made it impossible for me to build a relationship with dsd. The ex told dsd we had dd to replace her. That her dad didn't love heras much, cause he wished she was a boy. Told her that dh and her would get back together if I wasn't around. Every time she would visit and go home the phone was ringing before dh was even home, because things would get twisted around anything I said. We had dsd evaluated by a psychologist when she was 17 cause she was going down the wrong path, and the psychologist said she was developmentally 2 yrs behind because of all the negativity that had been instilled in her. The ex and dsd got kicked out of counseling. I was never allowed to correct her. I had to call dh or the ex about it. I sure didn't let her disrespect me though. This went on from the time she was 11 to the age of 16. Dh finally told the ex he wasn't forcing her to visit ant longer. Dh did switch to going and taking her out himself for the day so their visit wouldn't be misunderstood with me there. It was so hard trying to be a combined family, cause the ex made it that way. Dsd is 26 now and 2 kids of her own. We don't have a strained relationship like we used to, even though the ex still puts her two cents in.
My husband loves my daughter, she was 2 when I met him. They have an amazing relationship, I couldn't ask for a better dad for my daughters. His family on the other hand, are all about blood. They throw up step & not being blood all of the time. They treat her different and my other daughter different, who happens to be their "blood". We don't take our children around them. It's a horrible situation that I don't want either of them. I feel that if the man loves the women there is not difference in the children. I come from a blended family, but to me we are a whole family.
Quoting littlemrsd:My husband loves my daughter, she was 2 when I met him. They have an amazing relationship, I couldn't ask for a better dad for my daughters. His family on the other hand, are all about blood. They throw up step & not being blood all of the time. They treat her different and my other daughter different, who happens to be their "blood". We don't take our children around them. It's a horrible situation that I don't want either of them. I feel that if the man loves the women there is not difference in the children. I come from a blended family, but to me we are a whole family.
She is our only child, as he has nine f his own. We are currently pregnant, and he says he worries he won't love our son as much as he loves dd because she was his first child. He's always saying our unborn son has a lot to live up to.
I would treat a stepchild differently, which is why I don't have any.
S/o What would you do if you found out your 17yo had sex?