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My poor baby :-(

Posted by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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This morning we took my 7 1/2 month old son to have his tear ducts probed because he has blocked tear ducts that were not getting better with the regular treatments.
I was allowed to put on scrubs and hold him in my arms while they put him under and he did so great! The doctors said he was a rock star about it! As I handed his limp little body to the nurse to begin the surgery I began to cry (out of fear from the risks of anesthesia and seeing him so limp). We then waited for the doctor to come get us in the waiting room.
The doctor came out and said his left eye was easy and successful and he did great in surgery. He then told us that his right tear duct system did not fully develop and he would need a much bigger surgery to fix this. His lacrimal sac did not fully develop while in the womb :-(
He went on to explain how he would have to see another specialist but we would have to go to Boston (We live in Maine and when Boston is suggested you know its serious!) and that they will have to cut into his face and then drill into the bone of his nose to repair the sac. I am not sure exactly how they do this but I know he will have stents in for about 3 months while it heals and then those will be removed.
He said we need to fix this and that he didnt want to discourage or scare us but this is a much bigger proceedure and will be quite painful for him to recover from.
I have cried and cried since leaving there this morning. I know its not open heart or brain surgery but they are cutting and drilling into my little baby's face and will be causing him quite a bit of pain :'( I know you will all probably think this is stupid but I cannot stop blaming myself for this. I had 1 job while pregnant and that was to carry him in my stomach and let his little body grow and develop, I couldnt even do that.
:-( I feel like a failure as a mother.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:21 AM
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You are not a failure! Idk why this happened but please don't blame yourself! Good luck
BeAmour
by Ruby Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:22 AM
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 Oh my goodness :-( Poor kiddo!!

EvaTheDiva29
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:22 AM
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aww poor guy. it has to be done mama, and it will be over fairly quickly. just hugs and kisses for little one. 

nataliemaddymom
by Bronze Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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Glad today went well and you got to be there right up to surgery. I know it is hard to to blame ourselves but some things are out of our control. Good luck with future surgery i know it is scary hopefully the doctors then can bring you some peace of mind.
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cadditalbrat
by Gold Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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it's not you fault don't blame yourself :( hopefully once it's fix he won't have any more reason for surgery.
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miss.muffet
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 11:27 AM
I'm so sorry. Where in Maine are you at?


Quoting bear.katten:

This morning we took my 7 1/2 month old son to have his tear ducts probed because he has blocked tear ducts that were not getting better with the regular treatments.

I was allowed to put on scrubs and hold him in my arms while they put him under and he did so great! The doctors said he was a rock star about it! As I handed his limp little body to the nurse to begin the surgery I began to cry (out of fear from the risks of anesthesia and seeing him so limp). We then waited for the doctor to come get us in the waiting room.

The doctor came out and said his left eye was easy and successful and he did great in surgery. He then told us that his right tear duct system did not fully develop and he would need a much bigger surgery to fix this. His lacrimal sac did not fully develop while in the womb :-(

He went on to explain how he would have to see another specialist but we would have to go to Boston (We live in Maine and when Boston is suggested you know its serious!) and that they will have to cut into his face and then drill into the bone of his nose to repair the sac. I am not sure exactly how they do this but I know he will have stents in for about 3 months while it heals and then those will be removed.

He said we need to fix this and that he didnt want to discourage or scare us but this is a much bigger proceedure and will be quite painful for him to recover from.

I have cried and cried since leaving there this morning. I know its not open heart or brain surgery but they are cutting and drilling into my little baby's face and will be causing him quite a bit of pain :'( I know you will all probably think this is stupid but I cannot stop blaming myself for this. I had 1 job while pregnant and that was to carry him in my stomach and let his little body grow and develop, I couldnt even do that.

:-( I feel like a failure as a mother.

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bear.katten
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:17 PM
We're in the Naples area (lol I'm sure you've never heard of it! We're in the sticks :-P) and drove an hour for this surgery.. Boston will be hours and hours and little man hates the car!! It is beyond miserable!!!!


Quoting miss.muffet:

I'm so sorry. Where in Maine are you at?




Quoting bear.katten:

This morning we took my 7 1/2 month old son to have his tear ducts probed because he has blocked tear ducts that were not getting better with the regular treatments.


I was allowed to put on scrubs and hold him in my arms while they put him under and he did so great! The doctors said he was a rock star about it! As I handed his limp little body to the nurse to begin the surgery I began to cry (out of fear from the risks of anesthesia and seeing him so limp). We then waited for the doctor to come get us in the waiting room.


The doctor came out and said his left eye was easy and successful and he did great in surgery. He then told us that his right tear duct system did not fully develop and he would need a much bigger surgery to fix this. His lacrimal sac did not fully develop while in the womb :-(


He went on to explain how he would have to see another specialist but we would have to go to Boston (We live in Maine and when Boston is suggested you know its serious!) and that they will have to cut into his face and then drill into the bone of his nose to repair the sac. I am not sure exactly how they do this but I know he will have stents in for about 3 months while it heals and then those will be removed.


He said we need to fix this and that he didnt want to discourage or scare us but this is a much bigger proceedure and will be quite painful for him to recover from.


I have cried and cried since leaving there this morning. I know its not open heart or brain surgery but they are cutting and drilling into my little baby's face and will be causing him quite a bit of pain :'( I know you will all probably think this is stupid but I cannot stop blaming myself for this. I had 1 job while pregnant and that was to carry him in my stomach and let his little body grow and develop, I couldnt even do that.


:-( I feel like a failure as a mother.


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miss.muffet
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 1:12 PM
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I know right where it is. I was born and raised in Maine. Now I'm trying to get out of here...lol


Quoting bear.katten:

We're in the Naples area (lol I'm sure you've never heard of it! We're in the sticks :-P) and drove an hour for this surgery.. Boston will be hours and hours and little man hates the car!! It is beyond miserable!!!!




Quoting miss.muffet:

I'm so sorry. Where in Maine are you at?






Quoting bear.katten:

This morning we took my 7 1/2 month old son to have his tear ducts probed because he has blocked tear ducts that were not getting better with the regular treatments.



I was allowed to put on scrubs and hold him in my arms while they put him under and he did so great! The doctors said he was a rock star about it! As I handed his limp little body to the nurse to begin the surgery I began to cry (out of fear from the risks of anesthesia and seeing him so limp). We then waited for the doctor to come get us in the waiting room.



The doctor came out and said his left eye was easy and successful and he did great in surgery. He then told us that his right tear duct system did not fully develop and he would need a much bigger surgery to fix this. His lacrimal sac did not fully develop while in the womb :-(



He went on to explain how he would have to see another specialist but we would have to go to Boston (We live in Maine and when Boston is suggested you know its serious!) and that they will have to cut into his face and then drill into the bone of his nose to repair the sac. I am not sure exactly how they do this but I know he will have stents in for about 3 months while it heals and then those will be removed.



He said we need to fix this and that he didnt want to discourage or scare us but this is a much bigger proceedure and will be quite painful for him to recover from.



I have cried and cried since leaving there this morning. I know its not open heart or brain surgery but they are cutting and drilling into my little baby's face and will be causing him quite a bit of pain :'( I know you will all probably think this is stupid but I cannot stop blaming myself for this. I had 1 job while pregnant and that was to carry him in my stomach and let his little body grow and develop, I couldnt even do that.



:-( I feel like a failure as a mother.



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