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Just got back from court

Anonymous
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My ex decided to take me to court to have his child support lowered because he and his wife can't stop popping out kids they can't afford. They have been married 7 years and they have 3 kids together and she is pregnant again.

He has asked me in the past to lower the child support. The first time, I agreed to lower it by $200 a month (he pays $485 a month for our one child) for a year because his wife was pregnant with their second and they were having a hard time. She wasn't going to be able to go back to work after she had the baby because after daycare for 2 kids, it wasn't going to be worth it (remember that her income has no bearing on child support anyway). About 2 months after that year was up, she got pregnant again this was their 3ird child together, and again,  my ex asked me to lower the child support. At that point I said no. It was one thing when she was pregnant with their second and he asked me but for it to happen again, sorry, they need to plan better.

So we were in court and the judge asked why he wanted the support lowered and my ex told him because he is about to have 5 children total. I told the judge about the year where I let him off $200 a month after their second child. The judge asked him  if he couldn't make his child support payments in full for a while after his 2and child with his wife, why would he go and have 2 more and then expect me to do with less child support because of it? He told the judge that if we were together and had more children, our first child would live on less. The judge agreed that was true but in that case, I would have say over having those children, in this case, obviously, I didn't. My ex went on to tell the judge that I was being greedy and that our DD has more then him and his wife's kids (yeah, because I work, my DH works and we have DD and 2 kids together because we stopped having children so that we could AFFORD all of them). While it was hard, I kept my mouth shut the whole time while he kept talking back to the judge and was clearly getting on his nerves

The judge reviewed the papers and saw that he is making $500 more, per month then he was when child support was ordered. So instead of ordering a decrease in child support, he ordered it to be increased by $130 per month so now it's ordered at $615.

I was thinking about letting my ex just pay the $485 but after the way he talked about me in court, I don't think I will. It also pisses me off that instead of saying "hey, let's stop having children" he says "hey, lets just try to pay less for my first child".


Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:00 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:02 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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Sounds like his wife needs to go find a job!!!
Willis_Mommie
by Silver Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:03 PM
what an ass
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Buggy979
by Platinum Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:05 PM
Good I'm glad he is paying more. Sometime putting your for I'm your mouth is a positive thing for the other party.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:05 PM
Meh.
nicolemead91
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:06 PM

hey at least ur child support went up.. what an ass tho. 

its not ur fault that they cant stop having children they cant afford..


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:07 PM

The problem is, now they are fixing to have 4 kids at home and only 1 is in school. The amount they would spend on daycare would be more then she would make (she was a cashier at a grocery store before she quit working).



Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like his wife needs to go find a job!!!



wkukid
by Beach Bum on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:07 PM

Haha karma got him.

kryptomom
by Gold Member on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:09 PM

This made me giggle. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2013 at 12:09 PM
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I know, she keeps saying "I'm Catholic, I can't use birth control" then don't have sex. Which I think is funny anyway because doesn't the Catholic church frown upon divorce?



Quoting nicolemead91:

hey at least ur child support went up.. what an ass tho. 

its not ur fault that they cant stop having children they cant afford..




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