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My ex decided to take me to court to have his child support lowered because he and his wife can't stop popping out kids they can't afford. They have been married 7 years and they have 3 kids together and she is pregnant again.
He has asked me in the past to lower the child support. The first time, I agreed to lower it by $200 a month (he pays $485 a month for our one child) for a year because his wife was pregnant with their second and they were having a hard time. She wasn't going to be able to go back to work after she had the baby because after daycare for 2 kids, it wasn't going to be worth it (remember that her income has no bearing on child support anyway). About 2 months after that year was up, she got pregnant again this was their 3ird child together, and again, my ex asked me to lower the child support. At that point I said no. It was one thing when she was pregnant with their second and he asked me but for it to happen again, sorry, they need to plan better.
So we were in court and the judge asked why he wanted the support lowered and my ex told him because he is about to have 5 children total. I told the judge about the year where I let him off $200 a month after their second child. The judge asked him if he couldn't make his child support payments in full for a while after his 2and child with his wife, why would he go and have 2 more and then expect me to do with less child support because of it? He told the judge that if we were together and had more children, our first child would live on less. The judge agreed that was true but in that case, I would have say over having those children, in this case, obviously, I didn't. My ex went on to tell the judge that I was being greedy and that our DD has more then him and his wife's kids (yeah, because I work, my DH works and we have DD and 2 kids together because we stopped having children so that we could AFFORD all of them). While it was hard, I kept my mouth shut the whole time while he kept talking back to the judge and was clearly getting on his nerves
The judge reviewed the papers and saw that he is making $500 more, per month then he was when child support was ordered. So instead of ordering a decrease in child support, he ordered it to be increased by $130 per month so now it's ordered at $615.
I was thinking about letting my ex just pay the $485 but after the way he talked about me in court, I don't think I will. It also pisses me off that instead of saying "hey, let's stop having children" he says "hey, lets just try to pay less for my first child".