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I never used to have a problem with porn but now

Anonymous
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every time I leave the room thats all DH is watching, i was on the bed playing cars with Ds as I leave to walk to the bedroom, dh comes out like he was planning to come see us, I jump on to check my Uni site, then bang, Porn!

If I go to bed earlier than him, he comes in wanting sex, the admits he's been watching porn.

I literally never used to mind, but now that its getting to the point that everytime i'm not around he's watching it, it's starting to annoy me, we used to watch it together, now it's like a secret :/

I've spoke to him about it, and his response was "whats it got to do with you, I can watch what I like"

Fine then, don't ever ask me for sex any more, continue with your porn and just wank, I'm not liking it any more and if thats the way you want to be then carry on

:(

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:07 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:12 AM

Bump

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:16 AM
It sounds like your giving all your attention to your son and your husband is feeling left out.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:18 AM

You knew he watched it when you got together with him.  So what if he's been watching it and then wants to bang you?  He wants to bang YOU correct?  And shutting down the fort over him watching it just makes you look insecure, childish and petty.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:18 AM

If only!!! Really, he is the hardest man to talk to, I try, he answers and shuts the conversation down, all i'm allowed to talk about is philosophy of physics with him, because he "expects a standard of conversation" Between that and him making music all day, I literally give up trying

Quoting Anonymous:

It sounds like your giving all your attention to your son and your husband is feeling left out.


brysonsmommy_10
by Silver Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:18 AM

 When my husband and I got married we had a discussion about porn because when we moved in together I found a porn dvd when we were unpacking.  I told him that I don't mind porn if he's watching it online, but I don't want videos laying around (I was pregnant and I just wanted us to go ahead and get used to not having things like that laying around).  I also told him that he could watch it as much as he wants as long as he doesn't start using it as a replacement for ME and it doesn't start affecting our sex life.  When it comes right down to it, I don't always want sex when he wants it.  He works second shift and I'm up by 7:30 every morning, so by the time he gets home I'm asleep.  I know he loves me so I don't care if he sees a naked woman that he is probably never going to meet in real life.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:19 AM

No. I never knew. Only when I moved in with him did I find out. And, like I said, I never had a problem at all. until its every minute of the time im out of the room. Yea, maybe insecure, but seriously.

Quoting Anonymous:

You knew he watched it when you got together with him.  So what if he's been watching it and then wants to bang you?  He wants to bang YOU correct?  And shutting down the fort over him watching it just makes you look insecure, childish and petty.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:21 AM
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My Dh would have to get over that real quick, my children come first and then him.

Quoting Anonymous:

It sounds like your giving all your attention to your son and your husband is feeling left out.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:21 AM
Don't let these above bitches make you feel bad or like you've done something to deserve this. You haven't. If it's taken over his life like that, I completely understand your hurt. Quite frankly, it sounds like he's addicted. I just don't know how you help someone that doesn't want to be helped. Good luck.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:23 AM
I'm sorry you feel like you can't talk to him. My dh isn't much for talking either. But he only watches porn if he isn't getting enough attention from me. I play with the kids while he is gone so when he comes home I can give him my attention. And always stay with him. Don't give him enough alone time to look at porn. Give him your full attention from the time he walks in the door. Good Luck Mama

Quoting Anonymous:

If only!!! Really, he is the hardest man to talk to, I try, he answers and shuts the conversation down, all i'm allowed to talk about is philosophy of physics with him, because he "expects a standard of conversation" Between that and him making music all day, I literally give up trying

Quoting Anonymous:

It sounds like your giving all your attention to your son and your husband is feeling left out.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:24 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

Don't let these above bitches make you feel bad or like you've done something to deserve this. You haven't. If it's taken over his life like that, I completely understand your hurt. Quite frankly, it sounds like he's addicted. I just don't know how you help someone that doesn't want to be helped. Good luck.

Thank you, I know not a lot of people truly understand, because even I used to read other peoples issues with porn and be like "oh what ever, it's not really an issue" But, no one really knows until they are there themselves, *sigh*

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