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Gut feeling I'll have a stillborn help. Trigger pic pg 52 UPDATE!!

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Throughout my pregnancy things haven't felt right at all, at first I worried about mc then incompetent cervix and then me dying during birth, but I worked all through these fears until I reached the word stillbirth, then something rang in my body like no other I had this awful knot in my stomach and still do, even buying baby items I'm very uneasy like I'm forcing myself to buy them but she won't be wearing them.

I never felt this way with my son, I was so happy with him and excited, with this one I feel no connection and kind of angry when she moves because I feel it's all going to be taken away from me I just don't know when, it's like my brain is preparing me, I guess I started grieving before it's even happening, when people talk about her the knot in my stomach happens, it's so very weird. I pray to god it's just anxiety but a part of me just knows I won't bring my baby home.

I was searching the internet to find others who have felt this way and felt so strongly about their feelings and even after everything it all turned out ok, but I never found anyone who felt this way and everything turned out fine, everyone I read has confirmed my fears.

I want my baby girl so badly! I had a mc before my son and had this feeling that's why it's scaring me.

I pray to god my fears and premonitions don't come true, but it's not looking positive.

Please tell me if you've gone through this and how did things turn out? I've already told my df to get prepared, and to cancle my baby shower.

It doesn't feel like normal anxiety..... It feels like a strong intuition.

**UPDATE**I DELIVERED MY 9 Lb 2 oz BABY GIRL SOPHIA MARGARET (JUNE 4th at 12:25 A.M.)I CAN'T BELIEVE I THOUGHT THE WAY I DID I REGRET BEING SO WORRIED! THANK YOU ALL FOR EVERYTHING!! IM THE HAPPIEST WOMAN EVER!!! SHE IS A JOY AND I LOVE HER SO MUCH!
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:18 PM
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GagaNTattooS
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:26 PM
Talk to your doctor and just relax.
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MichLW69
by PackersXLV4 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:26 PM
I feel so badly for you. I can feel the anxiety in your post. Please, talk to your dr or DF - anyone.

Quoting Chasesmum3109:

I'm 30 weeks today and yes my baby is moving like crazy right now, I just have this feeling I'll wake up one day and it'll all be over, it's a very strong intuitive feeling.



Quoting MichLW69:

How far along are you? You can feel the baby moving and kicking right?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:26 PM

I did this, my daughter is 7 yo now.  

HelloSweetie
by Gold Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:27 PM

Im so sorry. <3 I hope you get through the rest of your pregnancy uneventfully and I know when you hold baby in your arms, you'll be just fine.

Quoting Chasesmum3109:

If it was up to me I'd stay in the hospital and be monitored the whole time until I deliver but I know that won't happen, and I feel like no matter how much reassurance he gives me I won't think any differently.

Quoting HelloSweetie:

Oh heck, don't. They hear stuff like that all the time and he WANTS to reassure you.

Quoting Chasesmum3109:

I'm terrified to talk to him about it, I feel so stupid.



Quoting HelloSweetie:

What does your dr say?



LovingSAHMommy
by Gold Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:27 PM

I had some complications that led me to feel that way. My baby girl was born healthy. Your intuition can be wrong.

Chasesmum3109
by Platinum Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:28 PM
Did yours feel like your gut was trying to tell you something?

Quoting 4_little_angels:

I think those fears are normal for pregnant women. I had them too. My son is 4 months old now. Try to think positive mama, best wishes!
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babie113
by Ruby Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:28 PM
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its normal to have this fear but get a fetal Doppler to ease yourself worrying wont help

curlycupcake
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:28 PM
I'd like to hear more about your feelings. Is it like imagining the worst happening and living it through imagination? Or is it more like you feel a sort of presence giving you warning? I ask because I had a similar experience, and through support groups know others as well.
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CV3
by Silver Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:28 PM

 Well 30 weeks is pretty far along...the chances that if anything were to happen, the baby would turn out ok are decent. So if you feel anything weird, go to the doc asap. Dont be ashamed or worry about looking stupid.

If your religious, pray about it. They say prayer can do wonderful things. Maybe even talk to your head religious person (whoever it is). They could pray with you or help you calm down I am sure. I really think you need to talk this out with someone you trust whether thats your doctor, a priest, your man, whoever.


Quoting Chasesmum3109:

I'm 30 weeks today and I'm trying to keep my faith in god.

Quoting CV3:

How far along are you? Do you have any sort of religious beliefs?


 

mcginnisc
by Platinum Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 6:29 PM

As someone that has had a 36 week stillborn, you cannot "tell" it will happen. It will completely catch you off guard. I promise. What has your doctor/midwife said? Has everything been okay during exams? 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Phillipians 4:13 

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