I've been seeing a man for a few months who is a widower. He's amazing. His wife has been gone for about a year now. He is still very close to her family and sees them regularly, which I have no issue with. But they are pretty intrusive at times. They don't know yet that he is dating someone. Last night his MIL was just having a bad day dealing eith her daughters death. He was supposed to come over but his MIL called him and he went to her house first. He ended up staying with her and her husband until like 1am. so we made plans for tonight. Then he texts me around 7 and said his sil (his wifes sister) showed up and wanted to take him to dinner. Now its 11 and he is texting me saying she is still there.
I don't want to intrude on his family. and I know right now we are just dating. But if this gets more serious then I don't want to have to constantly schedule around her family. Would it be selfish to tell him if things get serious that he can't keep putting her family infront of everyone else? I know its a weird situation. and i am trying so hard to be understanding.