I am having family from both my side and DH's side over on Easter. Every time MIL comes over, she wants me to lock my dog, Lucy, in a room. Lucy is a 7 year old Lab. I have had her since she was 8 weeks old she has NEVER bitten anyone nor has she ever shown aggression (with the exception of when another dog tried to attack DD (3 at the time) and she fought the dog off). But with people in our home, she has never been a problem, she doesn't even jump up or beg for food, Lucy has very good manners. MIL has 2 dogs but they are Yorkie Chiwawa mixes, the jump up and nip at everyone but MIL thinks they are safe because they are small and Lucy is dangerous because she is big.
When Lucy gets locked in a room however, she gets very anxious, especially knowing that there are people in the house, she wants to check it out and make sure everything is ok, plus she wants to see everyone and make friends. She gets so upset that the last 2 times, she threw up and didn't act right for days. The first time I thought maybe it was a coincidence but when it happened the second time I knew it wasn't.
This time, it is not going to happen, Lucy lives here, MIL doesn't and Lucy has never given anyone a reason to think she would hurt anyone. I told DH that either he can call and tell his mom or I will that I will not be locking Lucy up anymore. She is welcome to come but she will come with the understanding that Lucy will be out and about.
While he agrees that it is unfair to Lucy to be locked up, he doesn't want to upset his mother. I said "ok, so you would rather upset your wife"? Is it too much to ask that a grown woman be ok around a safe, friendly dog?