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How did You know Your Child was normal or not?

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is it something you knew or did someone have to point it out to you?  as in hey, your kid isn't doing this or that, i think something is wrong...

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:05 PM
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by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:28 PM
We found out our dd was abnormal when she was four days old and the doc brought her in my recovery room on a heart monitor. She has a rare heart condition, congenital scoliosis, and is considered VATER. She's been abnormal for almost 11 yrs now but we love her the same :)
by on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:28 PM

well he is my child so there is now way he could be normal, he does have autism but that has nothing to do with him not being normal.

by on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:30 PM

I've worked with kids so I knew what to look for developmentally....I also did a lot of research into developmental milestones and such

by Ruby Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:30 PM
We were nervous about a speech delay and took him to the doc and they noted his speech delay and his exuberant personality and referred me to an autism specialist. I spent 5 minutes on google and figured out my son is the opposite of autistic, never went back to that doctor. But I noted my sons special way with people that is special in my book. Anyways...I don't really know what normal is but at three he started to catch up verbally and every day he amazes me. I'm not concerned.
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by on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:37 PM

My son's teachers in preK said he was having problems with reading and the same in kindergarten. he had a tutor helping him in school a few times a week. Now he does not like reading but he is able to pass the assessments he is given a lot easier than when he started school. He has trouble doing his math problems each week but he has managed to get As and Bs on his tests. His teacher has suggested getting a tutor but the problem is not that he cannot do the work because he obviously can but sometimes he just seems to zone out and seem to forget what to do when given a problem. 

by Ruby Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:37 PM
He didn't like to be carried or in a small space (ie swaddled, sling, bassinet, etc from birth)
He screamed everytime he heard elmos voice and it took an hour to calm him when he was 3 months old
at 10 months he was using a fork and spoon properly. He wouldn't put things in his mouth without us showing him it was food
At 4 he started using his hands to eat and chewing on everything, food or not
when he was crawling I couldn't distract him. He would be in something he wasn't supposed to be into and we would leave for 4+ hours. The minute we got home he would without fail go right back to it.
Time outs made his behavior so much worse.
I could go on...
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by Gold Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:38 PM

With DS, he wasn't really talking at about age 2.  We chalked it up to the fact he had a big sister who was always running her mouth and "talking for him so he did not need to talk."  We went on vacation with my inlaws for a week and my mother in law (an elementary school teacher/principal at the time, has since retired) pointed out his lack of communication skills.  We said we'd take him for a hearing test to placate her, figuring nothing was wrong or at most he had some hearing loss.  After a year of testings, he was finally diagnosed with autism.  (Most of the year was waiting to get appointments.) 

Said older sister was eventually diagnosed with ADHD.

Their younger sister is still waiting on a diagnosis, but she is in the Early Childhood Special Education program, speech, occupational, and physical therapy.  She is also developmentally and language delayed.  But, since she looks 2 years younger than she is, people expect less from her than if she actually looked like a 4 year old (and her 1 year old cousin outweighs her.)

by on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:39 PM

 I knew because she wasn't meeting the same milestones as quickly as her peers and she was ALWAYS the most "active" or "spirited" child in a room.

by Bronze Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:40 PM

My mother, aunt, and sister in law noticed some things that were different. I saw them too, but being my first child, and being that those things didn't seem that big if a deal it made it difficult. As he has grown up, I realize that those "small" things have meant a lot. I sat in denial for a good year and even after he was formally diagnosed. 

Also, I had another child later and I didn't know how challenging my first child really was on everything from feeding to sleeping, and even gut issues until my second was born.

he toe walked everywhere, flapped arms, lost all language at 15 months of age, would obsess over spinning objects, rocked back and forth while humming, avoided eye contact to the point that he would turn away if you tried to look him in the eyes. He also went on a variety of play dates and when kids his age were playing in groups or together, he was the kid in the corner of the room spinning the wheels of a truck and rocking/humming. 

by Platinum Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:53 PM

I *felt* something wasn't right with ds, but I didn't *know*. He was my first, people would point things out to me, but it was all positive things so I didn't think anything of it. Now I know that so much that I went through with him wasn't normal, looking back anyway.

All the positive ways he was "ahead", he was also straying from the normal path quite a bit in others. Mostly emotionally. Academically, motor wise, all of those were perfect, but impulse control, soothing, sleep, etc. those were way behind. Ped's were no help because he was FINE they told me. His growth, milestones, intelligence were all off the charts perfect. So what if he lost his shit for six hours over a moved matchbox car??

I was actually told by one pediatrician that (paraphrasing because it was 8 years ago);

"Gifted children are just more tempermental and emotional."

I couldn't really get help until a couple years ago. Thankfully I found a therapist who understood that engaging my sons intellect does not mean giving in to his emo. Instead we have to teach him proper emotional responses.

I was so relieved when he got into football and I could see just how many of his behaviors were still a normal little boys. Having never been a little boy, I wasn't sure.

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