Nobody does this with a newborn.
You wait until the baby is weeks or months old, and ready to sleep, which they ARE if you have created a schedule for their lives. They know how the day generally goes, and when it's time to sleep, and that you will be right back when they wake up.
Anyone who is doing "cry it out" for more than a few days, isn't doing it right, or is doing it too soon for this particular child.
Never met a parent who started CIO at a young age. In real life, at least, most of the women I know baby their babies excessively and CIO starts at 9+ months.
The first time my second baby CIO'ed was at 16 months. I doubt my 1st born ever was allowed, she was coddled too much. Sigh. Probably because of judgemental women like you who made me feel guilty for thinking of putting her down so I could go pee alone.
Quoting audreesmama:I disagree with CIO. Why have a child who will cry when he needs or wants something, then ignore him when he communicates the only way he knows how? I have never and would never, ever use CIO.
I think CIO is horrible! It does not spoil children so stay with them, and teach them how to self sooth, and leave as they get the hang of it. I kids never CIO and they are all excellent independent sleeps.
I tried it when I took the bottle away ( cold turkey) and that didn't work so I turned to a different method which worked. We did it when we first put her in a toddler bed and that was mostly her fighting going to bed and her not liking being put back. . We have her bedtime routine and if after that she fights then she can cry, that is rarely now. Most of the time she just plays and puts herself to bed. I do what works and if that is what is going to work then I do it. People can say I am lazy and that is ok everyone has an opinion.
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