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Children with autism

Anonymous
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It seems like everyone but me is getting their child tested for autism. I've just read 3 threads that said they were testing for it this morning. I'm starting to think that people just have a lower standard for parenting, perhaps when it gets hard, thinking there must be something wrong because parenting should be easier. Anytime a child is a tad unruly or shy or NOT perfect in any way, they need a "diagnosis" for the child. Can't kids just have a personality these days?

** this is not directed to those with severe and true autistic children. I'm talking those who get their child labeled because they are a little different or hard to parent.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:03 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:05 AM
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no they can't...even tantrums are now considered an emotional disorder  by the psychiatric association

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:06 AM
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and then there's the parent who is pushed by the school to label the kid because it means more federal money for that school...

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:07 AM
I think that is a lot of it too. What a shame.


Quoting Anonymous:

and then there's the parent who is pushed by the school to label the kid because it means more federal money for that school...


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by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:08 AM

I agree...I actually had someone on my FB say this over the weekend, and was just disgusted! They found a new doc that agreed that her child had ADHD....OR you are just shit for a parent!!! GRR Control your bratty kids and stop looking for an excuse!

ninjakids
by Christina on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:11 AM
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I find alot of people jump to it, i was even guilty of thinking my son may have had Autism however i didnt get him tested ( it was more based on his verbal and social skills ) and now he has blown us and his daycare out of the water with how much a difference from sept-now.
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by CanadaGirl on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:12 AM
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I've never heard of anyone getting their kids tested just because they are unruly or shy.

I've know people to get their kids tested because their kids are nonverbal, they stim for long periods of time, they "flick" or "flap" their hands and/or arms, they won't make eye contact, they dont respond to their own name, they have no interest in the people around them or they seem to not even notice there are people around them, constantly and obsessively lining objects up, screetching and screaming for long periods of time.....etc etc etc....these things are why people I know get their kids tested for autism....not just because their kids don't seem "perfect" 

I think those who do not have an autistic child know shit about autism and should really shush because unless you live it...you just don't know.

These symptoms are why my stepson was tested for autism when he was 18 months old. He is an extremely severe case. 

beachbabies6
by Gold Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:15 AM
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this is also why my son was tested , people who know nothing about autism should shut up


Quoting CeeGee81:

I've never heard of anyone getting their kids tested just because they are unruly or shy.

I've know people to get their kids tested because their kids are nonverbal, they stim for long periods of time, they "flick" or "flap" their hands and/or arms, they won't make eye contact, they dont respond to their own name, they have no interest in the people around them or they seem to not even notice there are people around them, constantly and obsessively lining objects up, screetching and screaming for long periods of time.....etc etc etc....these things are why people I know get their kids tested for autism....not just because their kids don't seem "perfect" 

I think those who do not have an autistic child know shit about autism and should really shush because unless you live it...you just don't know.

These symptoms are why my stepson was tested for autism when he was 18 months old. He is an extremely severe case. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:17 AM
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I have a child with autism and there is a lot more to it then just an unruly child.  What is sad though are the parents who are seeking the dx for an SSI check.  It makes it harder for our children who actually have autism to get services.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:17 AM
I agree. They also can't run to the SSI office fast enough. ADHD = time to get paid!


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no they can't...even tantrums are now considered an emotional disorder  by the psychiatric association


Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 25, 2013 at 7:17 AM
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I disagree.  I don't think any parent wants their child to have something wrong with them.  But once a parent realizes that something is not right, then for some, having a diagnosis is comforting in the sense that it gives the parent a clearer understanding of the issues that their child faces and how best to move forward with treatment and therapies.  Autism is not a quick diagnosis one gets at a well-child checkup.  The diagnosis is made by a team of behavior, occupational, pediatric, and speech specialists.

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