Df and his ex wife finalized their divorce September of 2011. I had met him February of 2009, before anyone says it, no he didn't leave her for me, they had seperated in 2008 after she left him for another man. Anyway, so while he and I were together, we discussed marriage after their divorce, but knew we wanted to wait awhile after, just to be sure it's something we both wanted. It's not a topic often brought up between us, we live as a married couple, just are not married. In this time, I've gotten to know his family quite well, and he my family. Everyone gets along. His mother and I, and his sister and I (really the only family he has) get along great! But then his family or my family asks about marriage. And not in a "well when's the wedding happening?!" manner, but in a "you're not going to marry him are you?" manner. His mother and sister of course have their say with him of "you don't want to rush into another marriage followed by another ugly divorce do you?" attitudes. My family is always "are you sure you want to get married? Why the hassle?" I tell his sister marriage isn't something we've talked about lately, but if we do, it's not going to be a huge ceremony, maybe just a Justice of the Peace ceremony at city hall. She responds with "oh good, I was hoping you wouldn't marry my brother, I mean he's my brother and all, but I wouldn't marry him..."
Df is a good guy. A wonderful provider, wonderful father, someone I get along with great, we have fun, laugh, talk, granted he has a stupid past, but I haven't seen his past resurface, (convictions) his family even admits I'm probably the best thing to happen to him, he's been on a straight and narrow path, no problems, steady and stable, they're glad to see him with someone to keep him together, and someone who really does make him happy. So then why the issue when it comes to marriage? I don't want to ruin any relationships between anyone if we get married, between him and his family, myself and his family, between myself and my family, but I don't want to walk around 10 years from now explaining why he's my boyfriend, and I do admittedly want the benefits of a marriage.
So I set aside my own desires, for a long term commited relationship, because his mom and sisters comments have gotten to him, he doesn't see the point in a marriage anymore.
Am I wrong for wanting to be married? How do I approach this? Should I or should I be content to stay long term commited?