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A Letter to Victoria’s Secret From a Father... And I couldn't agree more!

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A Letter to Victoria’s Secret From a Father

An open letter to Victoria’s Secret regarding their choice to make an underwear line aimed at young teenagers. (Read about it here)

Dear Victoria’s Secret,

I am a father of a three year old girl. She loves princesses, Dora the Explorer, Doc McStuffins and drawing pictures for people. Her favorite foods are peanut butter and jelly, cheese and pistachios.

Even though she is only three, as a parent I have had those thoughts of my daughter growing up and not being the little girl she is now. It is true what they say about kids, they grow up fast. No matter how hard I try I know that she will not be the little ball of energy she is now; one day she will be a rebellious teenager that will more than likely think her dad is a total goof ball and would want to distance herself from my embarrassing presence.

I know that this is far down the line and I try to spend as much time as I can with her making memories of this special time.

But as I read an article today posted on The Black Sphere, it really got me thinking that maybe the culture that we currently find ourselves in is not helping the cause.

Recently I read an article that Victoria’s Secret is launching a line of underwear and bras aimed at middle school aged children. The line will be called “Bright Young Things” and will feature ” lace black cheeksters with the word “Wild” emblazoned on them, green and white polka-dot hipsters screen printed with “Feeling Lucky?” and a lace trim thong with the words, “Call me” on the front.”

As a dad, this makes me sick.

I believe that this sends the wrong message to not only my daughter but to all young girls.
I don’t want my daughter to ever think that her self-worth and acceptance by others is based on the choice of her undergarments. I don’t want my daughter to ever think that to be popular or even attractive she has to have emblazon words on her bottom.

I want my daughter (and every girl) to be faced with tough decisions in her formative years of adolescence. Decisions like should I be a doctor or a lawyer? Should I take calculus as a junior or a senior? Do I want to go to Texas A&M or University of Texas or some Ivy League School? Should I raise awareness for slave trafficking or lack of water in developing nations? There are many, many more questions that all young women should be asking themselves… not will a boy (or girl) like me if I wear a “call me” thong?

I want my daughter to know that she is perfect the way she is; I want my daughter to know that no matter what underwear she is wearing it does not define her.

I believe that this new line “Bright Young Things” thwarts the efforts of empowering young women in this country. “Bright Young Things” gives off the message that women are sex objects. This new line promotes it at a dangerously young age.

I implore you to reconsider your decision to start this line.

By doing so you will put young girl’s self-esteem, self-worth and pride above profits.


Rev. Evan Dolive
Houston, TX

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 25, 2013 at 8:27 PM
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by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:44 PM
Listen. Its underwear, plain and simple. You don't want your kid wearing it? Then don't fucking buy it. If you taught your DD's well, then what they wear under their clothes shouldn't be an issue anyway.
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by Anonymous 28 on Mar. 26, 2013 at 2:26 PM

Okay first things first .. if VS came out with a preteen line, more power to them .. they are an UNDERWEAR company, i highly doubt that its going to have thongs that say "call me". The tinker toy picture was just a get up, i didnt see THAT girl wearing sexy underwear .. she was wearing underwear .. the same underwear you can but at walmart .. the new line is for older girls .. You people are slow and so quick to judge a company. BTW, my daughter who is 4, has boy short underwear .. all she wears .. why? It isnt to be sexy .. it doesnt ride up her ass like regular underwear.

by Anonymous 28 on Mar. 26, 2013 at 4:17 PM


Look at this link .. does THIS look like middle school girls to you?

by Bronze Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 4:36 PM

As much as I agree with what this dad writes, if you wear stuff like that does not mean your going to have sex at such a young age. I got my first thing when I was in 8th grade and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18. I wore undergarments that I liked, what i thought was cute and what was also comfortable for me! I didn't purchase items thinking "I'm going to get lucky if I show this guy what I have written on my butt." I think as long as you have raised your children with good morals & don't be over strict with certain things, they will make good decisions on their own. Everyone makes mistakes & it's okay to. That's how we learn & grow as people. 

by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 4:43 PM

Regardless of the underwear a girl will have sex if willing.  I think education may be more important than going after a clothing line.  Teach girls to respect their bodies and themselves.

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