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how do i handle this? *very sad, might trigger

Posted by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:41 PM
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My brother & sil recently lost their baby, my nephew. He was 2 weeks. Nobody met the little guy, except for them and bro's mil. I know it's very heartwrenching having to go thru the loss of a child (from personal experience) and I know everyone grieves differently, but how do I ask to see pictures of him? When we lost ours, it was therapeutic for me to show my family pictures of my little angel. Like I said, everyone's different and I don't want to seem rude or brash but I honestly want to see what he looked like. It'd be nice to remember his face as well as his name, kwim?

How would you go about this?
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MochaBerry24
by Silver Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:42 PM
I wouldnt ask. I would wait at least until the grief isnt so fresh.
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ff-princess
by Platinum Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:43 PM

just ask her if she has any she'd mind sharing, because you really want to see that sweet face if she's up to it.  then leave it be.

tharealty2
by on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:43 PM

I wouldn't.  Wait for them to offer.

sam12796
by Platinum Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:44 PM

 That is really sensitive and I would just let them know you are there for them when they need you. Don't ask about the pics just yet. It might be too painful.

Beauty91805
by Platinum Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:44 PM
Give them time.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:45 PM


Quoting tharealty2:

I wouldn't.  Wait for them to offer.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:47 PM

 I wouldn't ask for anything. I know you are sad but it was THEIR baby, let them grieve... IMO that isn't something you ask for. Give them time.

kahlansmommy
by Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 10:55 PM

Just ask. "Do you have pictures of him? " Would you be willing to share?  I would love to have a memory of him.

I, too, had a personal experience of a stillborn child. I love to show her beautiful face to others. She is still one of my children.

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