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F***ity F*** F*** F***- teens and sex! ETA again

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So, doing the laundry today I found a rubber in the dryer. Because I have an IUD I was pretty sure it wasn't from DH. But I asked just in case. (the IUD is recent)

He said no, so I asked Teen DD. Her response made me suspicious.

Several hours later I reapproached the subject with her. After a lengthy discussion, which left me screaming in my skull!!! I learned at 14 she is not only NOT a virgin, she's bi too!


I explained to her about dental dams and condoms. Asked if she needed me to make a purchase. Reminded her that under age sex is technically illegal and definitely frowned upon in this house.


I carefully considered where she goes "unsupervised". Sleep overs with female friends. Adult supervided activities with boys (maybe their parent aren't watch as close as I do?)



Arrrgh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Just at a total loss and FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In regards to why/how it is illegal for a 14 yo to have sex:
My State's Law

...solicit a minor child under the age of sixteen (16) years to
    participate in a sexual act, or...

The condom/rubber was in the wrapper


Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 26, 2013 at 12:46 AM
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thetrollcat
by Meow on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:13 AM
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you mean congrats to the fact I actually parent my kids?

Quoting Angeliquer13:

Well congrats to you


Quoting thetrollcat:

teens with shitty parents and attitude pull that shit.

I raised a teen she wasnt that damn bad.

Quoting Angeliquer13:

Yea I understand all that but at the end of the day she gonna do what she wants. No matter how much you think monitor she will find away if she wants too





Quoting truealaskanmom:

there is a lot you can do, but you will have to monitor her carefully, educate her, show her the reality that is sex, STDs, emotional damage etc.  You just have to make sure she understands sex is not a handshake and pleasure is not always worth the risks that come with receiving that pleasure, espcially when there are options for safe self pleasure and exploration

Quoting Anonymous:





Quoting Angeliquer13:

All you can do at this point is make sure she's having safe sex.

REALLY?!

she's 14. there has to be another option besides limiting her social life?

and what if she "doing it" at school?










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singlemama0905
by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:13 AM
bahahaha glad someone else caught that one

Quoting ATG499:

How is it illegal?
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TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:14 AM

 At 14, she is probably under the age of consent.


Quoting ATG499:

How is it illegal?


 

SoInLove515
by Platinum Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:14 AM
I lost my virginity at 14 : /
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truealaskanmom
by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:14 AM

I think you need to make sure you understand the impulse, try to think back to being and teen and how you wanted to hump everything that moved it can't be helped, and then try and find out what she is lacking emotionally that would make her seek sex, and keep her busy in activities find things that will be important that sexual consequnces would ruin 

Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting truealaskanmom:

you are going to have to tell her that she is too young, it is not acceptable behavior, and go from there, you need to be careful she was honest with you and how you take it from here will form how honest she is with you from here on, it is normal for teens to have sexual wants and needs etc. the issue is we live in a time that it is not safe to do so and the consequnces are many and great, she needs to understand that, and you have to go about this without destroying her trust in you and her honesty with you



i have been telling her. thats the hard part. she know in our family we dont approve


Angeliquer13
by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:14 AM
Lmao if I tell you all the bad calories that are in cookies will you stop eatting them ?? No cause you already had them and know how good they are.


Quoting truealaskanmom:

wow really, you make her not want to, and you make sure it is known that it is a behavior that is punishable in your home

Quoting Angeliquer13:

Yea I understand all that but at the end of the day she gonna do what she wants. No matter how much you think monitor she will find away if she wants too





Quoting truealaskanmom:

there is a lot you can do, but you will have to monitor her carefully, educate her, show her the reality that is sex, STDs, emotional damage etc.  You just have to make sure she understands sex is not a handshake and pleasure is not always worth the risks that come with receiving that pleasure, espcially when there are options for safe self pleasure and exploration

Quoting Anonymous:





Quoting Angeliquer13:

All you can do at this point is make sure she's having safe sex.

REALLY?!

she's 14. there has to be another option besides limiting her social life?

and what if she "doing it" at school?









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paganmommy4
by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:15 AM

Id be pissed too... Like what steps did i fucking miss? Ya know? At least she used condoms.. 

3xangel
by *Angelicious* on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:15 AM
100% agree with you and Troll Cat.

Quoting truealaskanmom:

I think it is good she came clean, I would not be ok with this, and I would make it a gaol to discourage her from doing it further.  Teens really don't understand the gravity of sexual behavior and the capacity it has to completely shape their life and their future.  They don't understand that the teen years are such a brief glimpse in their life and that what they do during them can have a massive impact.  They don't understand that the social order of high school etc.  will not matter once they leave high school.  You really need to impress upon her the importance of not doing this, and make sure she understands that her brain is not fully formed so she is not rational in this area, and should back down and re-evaluate.  Teens are sexual beings that is apart of their make-up but we do not live in a time that expressing that sexuality is a safe and healthy option.  I would encourage self pleasure to avoid some serious consequences. 

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Angeliquer13
by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:15 AM
Yup you should go treat yourself


Quoting thetrollcat:

you mean congrats to the fact I actually parent my kids?

Quoting Angeliquer13:

Well congrats to you





Quoting thetrollcat:

teens with shitty parents and attitude pull that shit.

I raised a teen she wasnt that damn bad.

Quoting Angeliquer13:

Yea I understand all that but at the end of the day she gonna do what she wants. No matter how much you think monitor she will find away if she wants too








Quoting truealaskanmom:

there is a lot you can do, but you will have to monitor her carefully, educate her, show her the reality that is sex, STDs, emotional damage etc.  You just have to make sure she understands sex is not a handshake and pleasure is not always worth the risks that come with receiving that pleasure, espcially when there are options for safe self pleasure and exploration

Quoting Anonymous:






Quoting Angeliquer13:

All you can do at this point is make sure she's having safe sex.

REALLY?!

she's 14. there has to be another option besides limiting her social life?

and what if she "doing it" at school?














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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2013 at 1:16 AM



Quoting ATG499:

How is it illegal?


in my state anyone under the age of 16 having sex may be prosecuted

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