Wait, I am supposed to watch them for free while dh pays childsupport? edit
My dh's ex wife found out that she is not going to be able to get much time off this summer. The court order says that dh gets 5 weeks and she gets 5 weeks. The court order takes in to account all the time DH spends with the kids so he will still pay child support for the 5 weeks they are with us. But that's ok because the time they spend with us takes off of the child support over the year, if they didn't take that into account, he would be paying something like $400 a week.
But she told him that for 3 of her 5 weeks, she needs the kids to be with us during the day because she will be working 60 hour weeks (so that she can have the other 2 weeks off). Now DH works during the day so since they will only be here during the day, it won't give him much if any extra time with them. I said I was willing to watch them but if I do, she needs to either pay me. DH pays $240 a week for the 3 kids. I think that if I am going to be the one with them 12 hours a day, feeding them all three meals and taking them off, I don't think it's fair that DH pay child support. So I told her I will do it for $240 a week (she will write me a check, DH will write her one, this way she can't say DH just didn't pay). That is $80 a week per kid for about 13 hours a day 5 days a week. Last year I watched 2 kids for $250 a week so I feel I am giving her a good deal.
When I told her what I was willing to do, she cussed me out and said that they should be welcome to be in their dad's home anytime. Well he won't be home, I will be and I will be the one taking care of them (they are 5, 7 and 10) and as I have been told many times, I am just the step mom, I am not the parent" (which I agree with it but don't tell me I am not a parent and then tell me I am responsible for watching them on her time.)
For those who say that I shouldn't have married DH if I didn't want to watch his kids, that's not the case. I am happy to watch the kids when DH isn't home on his time, my job is to help pick up his slack. It is not my job to watch the kids on BM's time for nothing. She is getting $240 a WEEK for these kids when DH has them about 1/3 of the time. Now she wants me to have them basically all of their waking ours for 3 weeks for free? I usually babysit during the summer to make extra money, if I watch my step kids during BM's time, I won't be able to do that. It's BM's time and it's her job to provide child care, the fact that dh got married doesn't mean that she has a free built in babysitter.