Really? If it is so bad, don't have your husband re-enlist. Pay sucks? Nobody said you strike it rich in the military. Where else can an 18 year old fresh out of highschool get free housing, utilities, and healthcare? Certainly not at any other entry level jobs. A single E-3 gets free housing, food, all utilities and even a clothing allowance. All they have to pay for is their beer, and a car. Most don't bother with a car, since everything they need is in walking distance.
Deployments suck. Of course they do. But command does everything in their power to lessen the burden. Tax free pay, hazard pay, seperation pay, free child care, interest free loans, and many other support services. If you have a problem, call rear detachment, and a soldier will be at your door to mow your lawn, take your car in for an oil change, etc. About to lose your mind? Call rear D and a spouse will show up to take your kids, cook your meals, and clean your house. If you really can't handle it, the commander can give permission for the military to move you anywhere you want to go, and move you back. They pack, move and even unpack all of your stuff.
Is being a military spouse difficult? Absolutely. But use the resources that are available to you. Nobody is forcing you to stay in the military. Say no to the re-enlistment bonus and get out if you think its hell on earth. But you happily spend the thousands you get, sometimes 10k plus, to re-enlist, then complain for another 3 years about how much you hate it.
*steps off of my soap box*
I didn't say you couldn't vent or gripe. Shit happens and it gets rough. But if you do nothing but constantly complain about how much you hate military life, and think its the worst place on earth, find a new job. These services are available to you, but its up to you to get involved, go to the meetings, save the numbers they give you. Its not their job to check in on you. Its your job to call when shit becomes too much and you need help. Your unit sucks? call the chaplain or family services. Its YOUR responsibility.
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