I'm not trying to be such a control freak but how do I get my mil to listen to me about what is good for my daughter?
I ask because dd hadn't had a bowel movement in about 3-4 days and my mil gave her glysocine (probably spelled it wrong) but it was a little tube of liquid and she stuck all of it in my daughters behind and now she's pooping 3-4 times a day since she put it in (on the 17th)
I tried telling her it was normal since she's breast fed and now that she's 8 weeks all my colstrum is gone. I even call dd's doctor and asked him and he said she was okay that if she's not gaining weight or producing wet diapers 5-6 times a day then to be concerned and I told her all of this but she kept going on about how it's not good for her and then she started comparing my dd to my sister in laws friends daughter and how she had the same problem and that their doctor told her the same thing and that there was really something worng and she had to have surgery... blah blah blah.... I get she's trying to help but she hasn't had a baby on over 16 yrs and my sil doesn't have any children.
Oh also she tries to get me to feed dd on schedule instead of on demand... they also love to pass her back and forth like a doll and it's starts to irritate her and she starts getting fussy and instead of letting me get her to calm her down they keep passing her back and forth to each other and get he more cranky.
So am I being too harsh or am I in the wrong? If not then how do I speak to her nicely about any issues I have when it comes to dd?