Someone actually had the nerve to say this to me at the gym last night. It was about 8:30. She was talking to my son and asked why he wasn't in bed yet. I told her he doesn't go to bed until 9:30. She told me that was too late and acted like I was hitting the boy in the face or something.
My son is five. I've tried to get him in bed before then, but he always gets up and cries. So I pushed bedtime back to 9:30 and he falls asleep within ten minutes. Sure, he still gets up some nights but at least I'm not fighting him for an hour trying to get him to go to sleep. He takes a two hour nap at preschool and never wakes up before 7. I will re-evaluate this if he s tired when he starts kindergarten (do they still have naps?) but until then, it's what works for him.