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my 5 yo dd..Im so lost..

Posted by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:05 AM
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I have nooooo clue what to do in this situation. My did is 5 yes old.. and for the past week I've been catching her with her hands down her pants.. and I figured that OK this is normal.. she's just exploring her body. BOY WAS I WRONG!

Tonight I asked her what she was doing.. I told her she was not In trouble.. I just wanted her to be open with me. She told me she was scared to tell me why she does it. So after a loooong conversation full of tears she ended up telling me she touches her private parts because she likes to hurt herself down there... break....my....heart!

I asked her over and over if anyone's ever hurt or touched her there...she said no every time.. and wont give me a straight answer as to why she is doing this.

Im so lost and so hurt that my baby is going through this.. what do I do?! Please no bashing.. Im really saddened by this already and I just need some advice.. thank you ladies..
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slashteddy
by Platinum Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:08 AM
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No idea mama. Maybe consult a therapist? I am so sorry, that's so sad. Bump for you.
crazymom21
by Gold Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:11 AM
I'd be at a loss too :/. Talk to a dr maybe?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:17 AM
Maybe she views messing with/agitating/pushing as hurting? I'm not sure mama, my 5 yr old is curious and I have caught her just never asked why because it seemed to be clear curiosity.
MAMAdoesHAIR
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:18 AM
I'm scared to talk to a Dr... all my friends say this seems to be signs that she's been sexually abused.. but I can't even begin to think of anyone in our lives that could or would do that to her.. and I believe her when she says nothing like that has happened.. but if I take her to a Dr I'm scared that's the first thing they'll think of and I don't need that can of worms opened.. you know? :(
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MAMAdoesHAIR
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:21 AM
I looked at her..area... and its red and it looks like she's been trying to press her nails into her parts.. so I'm positive she is actually hurting herself.. ughhh I'm such a mess


Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe she views messing with/agitating/pushing as hurting? I'm not sure mama, my 5 yr old is curious and I have caught her just never asked why because it seemed to be clear curiosity.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:23 AM
Explain we dont hurt ourselves. Down there or anywhere else. Ask her why she does it on purpose? If it feela good or if it jus t hurts?
Dd1 (3.5) sometimes touches herself and i guess she doesnt realize its a sensitive area and she has scratched herself on accident once or twice. She'll come to me and tell me what happened, so ive told her she needs to be careful and not so rough.
Don't make her feel bad about it but maybe take her to a therapist/specialist if she doesntbtell you WHY she is doing it. Touching down there is normal but doing it to feel pain, isn't.
I'm sorry. I hope you can get to the bottom of it and she stops doing it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:23 AM
Alot of young girls do this. I don't think it is uncommon. She's at an age where curiosity would be starting. If your unsure then definately speak to a professional about it.
crazymom21
by Gold Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:43 AM
There is a strong possibility she just likes it.

Quoting MAMAdoesHAIR:

I looked at her..area... and its red and it looks like she's been trying to press her nails into her parts.. so I'm positive she is actually hurting herself.. ughhh I'm such a mess




Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe she views messing with/agitating/pushing as hurting? I'm not sure mama, my 5 yr old is curious and I have caught her just never asked why because it seemed to be clear curiosity.

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BrighteyedAsh
by Ashley on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:28 AM
:O

That would disturb and alarm me to no end.

From my PoV she COULD be covering because whoever doing it has sworn they'll know if she tells and will hurt her if he finds out. They may have completely feared her out of telling by convincing her of their omniscience...and promising harm, to prevent themselves from being found out and punished.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:30 AM
Don't be scared. Therapy will help. I'm going through it with my ds


Quoting MAMAdoesHAIR:

I'm scared to talk to a Dr... all my friends say this seems to be signs that she's been sexually abused.. but I can't even begin to think of anyone in our lives that could or would do that to her.. and I believe her when she says nothing like that has happened.. but if I take her to a Dr I'm scared that's the first thing they'll think of and I don't need that can of worms opened.. you know? :(

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