My brother and his girlfriend of less than a year had a baby girl yesterday. My mom blurted the news out to me yesterday morning and before I had a chance to react she kept going on and on. I told my mom I was happy for them and thought that would be the end of it.
I understand her excitement, but tonight she was driving me home and brought the baby's cry up and I lost it. I told her she has two other daughters with children who I'm sure would be more than happy to gush over the baby with her and at this point I've already congratulated my brother and my mom is just being insenstive towards my infertility. I also told my mom she has no tact and that made her angry.
I ended up getting out of the car and walking the rest of the way home and burst into tears as soon as I closed my front door. My husband and I have been TTC for 3 years and I have PCOS. I just ovulated on Sunday on my 6th medicated cycle (my mom doesn't know) and the chances of me being pregnant are slim to none, but my emotions are everywhere. My mom won't even acknowledge that I'm struggling to conceive which is fine, but talking about my brother's baby right now is too much and she knows that. I feel like an asshole. Vent over. Thanks for reading.
EDIT: I don't have biological children. If I do get pregnant chances are it won't be a joyous time for me so no I won't be sharing the news on social media or trying to pry a reaction out of others and if someone were to react the way I did to the same situation I would understand.
While my brother's girlfriend was pregnant my mom went on and on about how she can't stand my brother's girlfriend and how disappointed she is that the baby is girl. My mom said she needs more grandson's and the baby being female was yet another dagger through her heart.
My mom loves getting under everyones skin and I'm done apologizing to her. It's been 3 years of her nonsense when it comes to my infertility and at this point she either accepts it fully and stops telling me my PCOS and infertility aren't real or I stop talking to her completely at this point I feel like I have nothing to lose and faking happiness for others is over.