Why all the advice on how to not hear your baby cry?
I have seen several 'sleep training' posts on facebook from mothers who are struggling.....and people reply "hang in there" --- "ear plugs" --- "ipod headphones" --- "you will all appreciate it in a few days!"
Do people NOT know that babies cry for a reason?!? (reasons aren't always about being hungry, soiled, or hot/cold --- babies actually have emotional and psychological needs, too!)
People tell you it's 'for the baby's own good" --- b/c, you know, a 6 month old needs to learn to be 'independent' and to 'self-soothe' or he/she will never, ever, sleep on his/her own!!! *eye roll* (and, HOW do you define 'self-soothe'? A baby finally stopping crying doesn't mean he/she has learned to 'self-soothe'......didn't you know crying is EXHAUSTING?!?)
Learned helplessness is not self-soothing. Sleep training is learned helplessness. Sugar coat it however you want to make yourself feel better. Tell yourself how happy you were you did it.....but, your baby just learned that mom won't come anymore when I need her --- that is NOT 'self-soothing'.
Babies who never 'sleep trained', or went through 'cry it out', are actually capable of being independent and to go to sleep on their own when they are ready.