If your partner wants to cook thats fine but dont complain when he doesnt.
Im not saying your partner should ignore the kids but cleaning up after them should not be their responsiblity esspeccially if they worked all day.
Keeping a house tidy really isnt that hard I do it.
Oh and depending on how many kids you have being a SAHP is not that hard, my stepsister has 5 kids (ages 1-7 years) and she keeps her house clean and has supper on the table by 7 (her dh is in the Army as well), I am a SAHM with an 11 month old I keep my house clean and I have supper on the table by 8, so me and my step sister dont find anything hard about being SAHPs.
This was wrote as a vent post toward a friend of mine who is also a SAHM of a 18 month old boy. She was messegeing me about how she does everything and cooks too (except weekends) and that he plays and hangs out with their son but wont clean up the mess afterward. Her dh works 12 hour days 5 days a week she is a SAHM but their house is ussally a mess and she only ever cooks box or frozen suppers, he washs laundry and cooks suppers on his days off. Her DH also lets her sleep til noon on the weekends so he takes care of the kid those mornings. Yet she still complains and calls him all sorts of names. She doesnt respect him at all and I feel that she needs to stop complaining and be a good wife.