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A punch in the face. Why is this any different?

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There was a post the other day where a raging debate took place as to whether its ok for a parent to bite a child back for biting to show them it's painful. The OP asked multiple times if that same child were to punch someone in the face would it be ok for a parent to punch that child in the face in order to prove the same point? Surprisingly nobody answered so I ask that same question.
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 30, 2013 at 9:14 PM
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Melissa_4
by Ruby Member on Mar. 31, 2013 at 4:10 PM

No, biting or punching your child back is not acceptible. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 10:36 AM
ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!
No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)
DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!
what the hell is wrong with you people?

Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.




Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?


You can justify that?


That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.





Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.








Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.




Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.




Disgusting.









Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.


Nicole1357
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 11:35 AM

 I agree

Quoting melschlegs:

It's one thing to try to teach empathy, but that's a bit much.  My aunt would teach her kids empathy by doing things that they did (but didn't like, themselves) back to them.  When I say that, I mean things that were annoying, and the closest thing she would do that would be considered "physical" was tugging their hair (lightly) when they would pull each other's hair.  They learned quickly to think before they did things... but there's a line.  Hitting, pinching, slapping, and biting are way across that line.

 

Our God is healer, awesome in power!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 11:40 AM
Dd was 3 and slapped me in the face so hard during a tantrum that she left a mark. I slapped her right back and told her never to do it again. I showed her the mark on my face, explained that had I done it to my mom, I would've gotten whipped with a belt after having been smacked and that I don't want to spank her and not to give me a reason to. I left no mark, but she sure as shit has never put her hands on anyone's face ever again. No, I wouldn't have punched her back for punching as that can cause physical damage.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 11:42 AM
Well, the world is full of billions of psychopaths then. You should hide in a bunker and a bubble. Quick!

Quoting Anonymous:

ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!

No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)

DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!

what the hell is wrong with you people?



Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.






Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?



You can justify that?



That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.







Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.










Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.





Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.





Disgusting.











Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:28 PM
You know why?
Because fools like you justify biting your children, no Fucking wonder this world is so screwed up.
I don't need to hide, I'd rather just lead by a compassionate example, and show the children love and respect.
Many LESS psychopaths that way, it's a win-win!

And on a side note, are you really justifying biting a child, I mean, do you truly believe in what you are arguing about?
Quoting Anonymous:

Well, the world is full of billions of psychopaths then. You should hide in a bunker and a bubble. Quick!

Quoting Anonymous:

ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!


No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)


DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!


what the hell is wrong with you people?



Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.







Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?




You can justify that?




That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.







Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.











Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.






Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.






Disgusting.













Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.


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pinkfairy0206
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:31 PM
The worst I've done is a smack on the butt...I've never done the biting back,pulling hair,whatever else there is. I don't even do the butt smack anymore cuz 1. I feel guilty 2. It gets nothing accomplished.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:35 PM
I'm not the anon you were conversing with. I just saw your comment and felt it was ridiculous. Many people have effectively taught their kid not to bite by biting them back, just like others have taught them not to bite by other methods. It takes much more than biting a child to teach them no biting to make a psychopath. You thinking that can easily make a professional therapist think you yourself are the psychopath because if you can easily jump to that conclusion what other conclusions are you reaching that make no sense?

Quoting Anonymous:

You know why?
Because fools like you justify biting your children, no Fucking wonder this world is so screwed up.
I don't need to hide, I'd rather just lead by a compassionate example, and show the children love and respect.
Many LESS psychopaths that way, it's a win-win!

And on a side note, are you really justifying biting a child, I mean, do you truly believe in what you are arguing about?
Quoting Anonymous:

Well, the world is full of billions of psychopaths then. You should hide in a bunker and a bubble. Quick!

Quoting Anonymous:

ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!


No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)


DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!


what the hell is wrong with you people?



Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.







Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?




You can justify that?




That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.







Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.











Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.






Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.






Disgusting.















Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 1:05 PM
It was a metaphor genius.

And if you actually believe teaching a child NOT to do something by DOING it is good practice, then it doesn't matter which anonymous I'm answering, because you all cracked your heads falling from the same tree.
This is the stupidest waste of my time yet on cm, I'm done.
Go bite your kid.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not the anon you were conversing with. I just saw your comment and felt it was ridiculous. Many people have effectively taught their kid not to bite by biting them back, just like others have taught them not to bite by other methods. It takes much more than biting a child to teach them no biting to make a psychopath. You thinking that can easily make a professional therapist think you yourself are the psychopath because if you can easily jump to that conclusion what other conclusions are you reaching that make no sense?



Quoting Anonymous:

You know why?
Because fools like you justify biting your children, no Fucking wonder this world is so screwed up.
I don't need to hide, I'd rather just lead by a compassionate example, and show the children love and respect.
Many LESS psychopaths that way, it's a win-win!

And on a side note, are you really justifying biting a child, I mean, do you truly believe in what you are arguing about?
Quoting Anonymous:

Well, the world is full of billions of psychopaths then. You should hide in a bunker and a bubble. Quick!

Quoting Anonymous:

ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!


No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)


DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!


what the hell is wrong with you people?



Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.







Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?




You can justify that?




That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.







Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.











Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.






Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.






Disgusting.

















Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 1:07 PM
Still doesn't make it right


Quoting Anonymous:

I was spanked very rarely growing up and there was one time when my mom washed my mouth out with soap for lying. I have a wonderful relationship with my parents and I don't resent them in any way. I have spanked my kids maybe 3 times in their entire lives and it always had to do with a safety issue. I don't think I'd ever do the soap thing, but that's just a personal choice. So yes, corporal punishment was used on me (albeit rarely) , I did turn out fine, and don't think my parents were child abusers.




Quoting Anonymous:

ANYONE who bites a child IS a complete psychopath!


No, there is NOT a difference, and the ridiculous argument of "my child turned out fine"(insert ANY subject there)


DOES NOT MEAN IT'S RIGHT!


what the hell is wrong with you people?





Quoting Anonymous:

The physical pain factor is exactly the point. I have known many people who have bitten their kids in order to show them that biting hurts. It's usually a last resort and unless your a complete psychopath you bite them just hard enough to cause a little discomfort and get their attention without leaving bruises or marks. If an adult punches a child in the face there is no way to do that without possibly drawing blood, knocking teeth out of their mouth, giving them a black eye, etc. You're going to honesty tell me you don't see a difference? One the child won't remember a month later more than likely and the other could scar a child for life.








Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly HOW is it different, besides the obvious physical pain factor, and HOW is the any better then emotional?




You can justify that?




That's a ridiculously self absorbed way to view it.









Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks for the compliment. I am sorry if you can't get off your high horse for a moment to see my point. There is an enormous difference between a parent lightly biting a child back to show them that it hurts and not causing any real damage vs. punching a child in the face. There is no way for an adult to punch a child in the face and not seriously hurt them and cause very serious damage. I wouldn't do either one, but you cannot tell me that doesn't make sense.












Quoting Anonymous:

You are a raging idiot, it has nothing to do with one hurting more then the other, and has EVERYTHING to do with leading by example.






Good grief, unbelievable that you could possibly break it down with justification, whether you do it or not.






Disgusting.













Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry, but your question is ludicrous. I would not do either, but there is a huge difference between a parent biting a child with a little bit of force in order to show them what they are doing can be hurtful to other children without seriously hurting them vs. an adult punching a child in the face which could seriously injure them or possibly send them to the hospital. Again, I wouldn't do either, but there is no comparison.



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