My boyfriend hasn't spoken to his father in 3 going on 4 years because of his dad just not making an effort.
His dad up and left the house when BF was 12, and now (14 years later) has an entirely new family with a wife who is only a year older than BF and a new baby.
It really tears BF up that he hasn't heard from him in so long, and he doesn't even have his new number or address to try to reach out.
Here's my question:
I was bored one time and decided to use BeenVerified.com during one of their free month full trials.
My BF knew I was on it, and jokingly told me to look up his info. (BF's, not his dad)
So I did. Boring stuff, not a serial killer lol.
BUT he doesn't know that his dad's updated info was connected to his profile because he's family.
Now, I have his dad's address and phone number.
I know most of you are going to say to just tell my BF and give him the info. I can't/won't. Any time I bring up his dad he almost cries and pretty much says he's at the point of not wanting to put forth the effort just to have it not returned.
Should I write an anon letter to his dad and just pretty much say that it would mean a lot to his son if he called him? Or maybe a random creeper call to say the same?
Idk. Maybe put the ball in his court without BF knowing, that way his dad knows but BF won't be disappointed if nothing comes of it?