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2 year old asked why daddy doesnt love her**ETA**

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Dd and i were having cudle time this morning and i gave her a kiss and said"i love you" she said it back then got a sad look i asked what was wrong and she said "daddy not love me." i felt really bad and didnt know what to say.but i said"yes he does baby hes just busy lately" he hasnt seen her in over a month and its really starting to get to her.i feel so bad.i emailed him and told him he needs to just stay out of her life since he wants to be in and out all the time.she doesnt need a dad when its convieniant(sp?) to him.He will do great and be around all the time for a month or 2 then we wont hear from him for 2-3 months.we split up when she was 16 months old.now every time he has a girlfriend he wants nothing to do with her.i hate him because of how he does our daughter.she doesnt deserve this shit**EDIT** I have soul custody of her if the court thought he was a good dad they would have given him visitation.i let him see her because i thought it was best and he promised not to keep doing the in and out
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2013 at 11:49 AM
Replies (11-20):
OneToughMami
by Ruby Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:06 PM

I think you are putting your feelings of him on to her.

Quoting Anonymous:

i didnt send the email until after she said it today.and yes i told him to stay away he will just keep hurting her.eventually she will stop asking about him and it will be better


Quoting OneToughMami:

So saying "Daddy is an asshole and mommy told him to stay out of your life" is not the answer you want?



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:06 PM


in this situation, you just stop that sort of communication to the child. Visitations should be discussed with the parents not the children. 

You don't tell your child that daddy is coming. You only tell him when daddy is there. 

Quoting giejie:

Mine always promises. He lies through his teeth. It started effecting my sons school work so I cut him off. My husband stepped up more and I haven't heard from bd in months.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:08 PM

Won't making him stay away make your daughter feel even worse and like she was abandoned? Honestly, my MIL did this and it came back to bite her in the ass years later. 

Katenemsmom
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:08 PM
Honestly, I think she is hearing you or other adults say things. She is responding to your attitude/emotions.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:09 PM
not so.i dont talk to her about him unless she brings him up and then im as nice as i can be about him.if i told her what i really thought about him i would have told her he doesnt lover her enough to put her before the next lay.


Quoting OneToughMami:

I think you are putting your feelings of him on to her.

Quoting Anonymous:

i didnt send the email until after she said it today.and yes i told him to stay away he will just keep hurting her.eventually she will stop asking about him and it will be better





Quoting OneToughMami:

So saying "Daddy is an asshole and mommy told him to stay out of your life" is not the answer you want?





Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:09 PM


she will NEVER stop thinking about him. And she will one day ask about him again. 

Shame on you for not allowing your daughter to know who her dad is. I don't care if he comes around once a year!! 

Do you know what it is like to grow up not knowing your dad at all because your mom was not capable of thinking about your needs? Well, I do!! And you are not helping your daughter. You should just leave it alone and let her figure it out for herself. And she will one day. She will see which parents is there for her and which one isnt. But what you are doing is going to cause a lifetime of damage to your dd!! 

Quoting Anonymous:

i didnt send the email until after she said it today.and yes i told him to stay away he will just keep hurting her.eventually she will stop asking about him and it will be better


Quoting OneToughMami:

So saying "Daddy is an asshole and mommy told him to stay out of your life" is not the answer you want?




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:11 PM
no because every time he does this she asks about him for a month or so then forgets about him


Quoting Anonymous:

Won't making him stay away make your daughter feel even worse and like she was abandoned? Honestly, my MIL did this and it came back to bite her in the ass years later. 


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by Bronze Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:12 PM

Aww :( my heart breaks for your daughter!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:13 PM

Does she forget about him or just drops the subject? There is a huge difference in my opinion. 

Quoting Anonymous:

no because every time he does this she asks about him for a month or so then forgets about him


Quoting Anonymous:

Won't making him stay away make your daughter feel even worse and like she was abandoned? Honestly, my MIL did this and it came back to bite her in the ass years later. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2013 at 12:13 PM
i sent the email today.i have tried MANY times to get him to bw more involved.the court clearly agrees with me or i wouldnt have full custody.i let him see her because he promised not to do this again well he did so now we are going to go with the courts decision


Quoting Anonymous:

i'm sorry but i think you're in the wrong. It is not your relationship to dictate how often he will see her. You should have just left it alone and encouraged a better relationship not tried to force it. She clearly misses him.

You don't know what the future holds. People change. Just because he is not coming around consistantly now does not mean that it would have never happened. You need to call him or email him and get him back in her life. 



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