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I feel a closer bond to DS than I do to DD.

Anonymous
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DS is 3 months. DD is 5.
With him the bond was instant, with her I had blood pressure issues and don't remember much of the first day I had her.
I has a whole hour skin to skin with him after he was born before anyone even touched him, with her she was taken because I passed out and DH and my step mom had to hold her to me to nurse because I was still out.
She also has always been daddy's girl.
They have a very close bond. She has always just seen me as a caretaker and daddy is everything to her! She even called me "a booby" until 15 months. Never mama. And if I leave her she is fine as long as she knows she is going to be fed. Lol.
I feel guilty.
I love them both the same, she is my princess, a great little lady. So helpful and the nicest little sassy girl ever!

But with DS it's different. I feel like he ha always just been with me.

I am going anon just because I know some will call me a bad mom, but I am just wondering if this is common?

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:51 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:55 PM
No one?
thenameshailie
by Ruby Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:57 PM

I feel a much stronger bond with my 5 year old and I do not feel very bonded with my 11 month old. I think its normal and relationships grow

pamelax3
by Silver Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:58 PM

I think we have different bonds with each of our kids.. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 1, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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i think its normal. i have a different bond with each one of my children. 

Miss.Mommie.
by Silver Member on Apr. 1, 2013 at 4:00 PM
I feel the same way sometimes. DD is 4 and DS is 19 months. I think our situation is he is still the cute little baby and she is the diva who can be bratty sometimes. I love them both dearly but I feel like I am closer to DS. Makes me feel guilty.
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SageAdvice
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 4:03 PM

 If your daughter is that way with you, it's your own fault...

Some times you just have to punt the ball.
D.O.E.
by on Apr. 1, 2013 at 4:03 PM

i think the bond with each child is unique and special.

i think we connect with each child in different ways than the others.

and personally......lol.......i think its ok.

we still love our kids, we just have a unique love for each of them, because every child is different.

it doesnt mean you love one any more than the other

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:20 AM
I disagree.
Just like everyone else in the world she is her own person and has preferences towards people.
She bonded more with DH, not me.
It has nothing to do with me.


Quoting SageAdvice:

 If your daughter is that way with you, it's your own fault...


SageAdvice
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 12:28 PM

 You said :   " She has always just seen me as a caretaker and daddy is everything to her! She even called me "a booby" until 15 months. Never mama "  Your Fault! Had everything to do with you. Children aren't stupid. Seems to me she knew right away how you felt!

Quoting Anonymous:

I disagree.
Just like everyone else in the world she is her own person and has preferences towards people.
She bonded more with DH, not me.
It has nothing to do with me.


Some times you just have to punt the ball.
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