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SO Had his surgery a week ago and he's up moving around and refuses to take his meds for pain. So he's irritable.
He's left the house many times for store runs, his friends house, whatever.
I can't leave the kids with him because he can't lift them. He didn't participate at Easter with my mom, he stayed home (he misses every holiday with the kids except baby's birthday in January).
So, he can leave the house (just did just now) whenever he wants (like always) and now I can't leave the kids here because he's on a lift restriction to 8lbs.
I just want to cry. I want out of the house without the kids for a bit... I'm also on my period so maybe I'm just being a big baby...
But I really am needing a break.
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by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 12:47 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:03 PM
They aren't his kids. So realistically hes not obligated to participate, or be responsible for them. Sucks, but it is what it is. Maybe find a day drop in daycare.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:03 PM
Don't cry mama. Is there a mothers day out program where you are that you could drop the kiddos for a couple of hours and go shopping or just relax a little? Ps. Take his pain meds for your aunt flo and chill a while. Lol
Lizardannie1966
by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:03 PM

I really hate to say it, but maybe it's time to start considering whether or not you really want (or should have) a future with him? :/

I'm sorry you go through this and I can't blame you a bit for feeling as you do.

Quoting hp2011:

Yes. the surgery is his first valid excuse for not watching the kids. I would be more compassionate if he weren't always like this. his social life is more important than mine.

as for holidays, I don't know... he's just got no interest in family functions.


Quoting Lizardannie1966:

From the way I am reading this, he behaves this way regardless if he's had the recent surgery or not. Yes?

If so, there's an unfair imbalance going on in your relationship.

Can I ask why he misses all the holidays? Why doesn't he participate for the sake of the kid's?


Paranoai
by Bronze Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:06 PM

you sound like a damn whiner

Quoting hp2011:

I know :/ he does this all the time though. now he has a valid excuse and it SUCKS.

Quoting Paranoai:

TAKE A xanax. Don't be selfish, he just had surgery


hp2011
by Ruby Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:06 PM
Lmao what? The baby is ours together. he missed every "first" holiday with him.


Quoting Anonymous:

They aren't his kids. So realistically hes not obligated to participate, or be responsible for them. Sucks, but it is what it is. Maybe find a day drop in daycare.
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Jessy613
by Diamond Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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that really sucks :( I hope your day gets better! sounds super frustrating.

hp2011
by Ruby Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:08 PM
Perhaps. I just want a break is all.

Quoting Paranoai:

you sound like a damn whiner

Quoting hp2011:

I know :/ he does this all the time though. now he has a valid excuse and it SUCKS.



Quoting Paranoai:

TAKE A xanax. Don't be selfish, he just had surgery


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:09 PM
So you're back with the guy who treated you like shit and abused you before?

Quoting hp2011:

Lmao what? The baby is ours together. he missed every "first" holiday with him.





Quoting Anonymous:

They aren't his kids. So realistically hes not obligated to participate, or be responsible for them. Sucks, but it is what it is. Maybe find a day drop in daycare.
hp2011
by Ruby Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:10 PM
If he would just give me a little more freedom we would be fine. That's what's frustrating.

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

I really hate to say it, but maybe it's time to start considering whether or not you really want (or should have) a future with him? :/

I'm sorry you go through this and I can't blame you a bit for feeling as you do.

Quoting hp2011:

Yes. the surgery is his first valid excuse for not watching the kids. I would be more compassionate if he weren't always like this. his social life is more important than mine.



as for holidays, I don't know... he's just got no interest in family functions.




Quoting Lizardannie1966:

From the way I am reading this, he behaves this way regardless if he's had the recent surgery or not. Yes?

If so, there's an unfair imbalance going on in your relationship.

Can I ask why he misses all the holidays? Why doesn't he participate for the sake of the kid's?


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EmilysMom2010
by Ruby Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 1:10 PM
You're right. But if he has NEVER gone why would you expect him to now?

Quoting hp2011:

IMO if he's good enough to hang out he's good enough to participate in Easter.



Quoting EmilysMom2010:

It's only been a week. He had surgery.... Maybe I'm missing something.


But that is super lame he doesn't join in on family things. THAT'S what would piss me off.
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