My friend has a set of twins. One boy and one girl. They are 4 and have both been diagnosed with different degrees of mental retardation, thus they aren't potty trained yet.
Both sides of the family freak out if my friend's dh changes his daughter's diaper because she's 4, but no one cares if my friend changes her son's diaper and expects her to do all the work with both of them?
Does that make any sense to you?